Im currently in a relationship, just at the 2 week mark, i know nothing too serious as of yet. Long story short, went to the bar and ran some game, and made out with another girl on the dance floor and got her number. Is that cheating, or just innocent fun, its not like I took that girl home.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Kissed another girl?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him?
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
amoka
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What makes you thing you're "in relationship" with a woman you have been seeing only for two weeks. Unless you're committed to her or her committed to you, this is not cheating at all. It is obvious that you're not committed to her... and there is no sign that she is committed to you either since you've only being involved for two weeks. If she is committed to you at this stage, she is a fool, and treat her as such. If you're committed to her at this stage, you're equally a fool and expect to be treated as such.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My friend put it the best i think so far, I realized that making out doesnt mean much to me, its something I typically do with girls, either at the club whom i dance with or the first date in etc... its easy for me, I enjoy it, they enjoy it, etc... When I made out with that girl on the dance floor, I did it because it felt natural, and its what I do when I go to bars.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
have you DATED for 2 weeks or are you an official couple for 2 weeks[having dated for 6 months}? BIG difference. But I wouldn't tell her-she won't ever tell you about kissing a guy
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Project Fox
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Wow @ some of the advice in this thread.
tappa
Don Juan
@SmoothTalker.. A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him? <== this!!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.