Im currently in a relationship, just at the 2 week mark, i know nothing too serious as of yet. Long story short, went to the bar and ran some game, and made out with another girl on the dance floor and got her number. Is that cheating, or just innocent fun, its not like I took that girl home.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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Kissed another girl?
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SmoothTalker
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A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him?
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
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What makes you thing you're "in relationship" with a woman you have been seeing only for two weeks. Unless you're committed to her or her committed to you, this is not cheating at all. It is obvious that you're not committed to her... and there is no sign that she is committed to you either since you've only being involved for two weeks. If she is committed to you at this stage, she is a fool, and treat her as such. If you're committed to her at this stage, you're equally a fool and expect to be treated as such.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
My friend put it the best i think so far, I realized that making out doesnt mean much to me, its something I typically do with girls, either at the club whom i dance with or the first date in etc... its easy for me, I enjoy it, they enjoy it, etc... When I made out with that girl on the dance floor, I did it because it felt natural, and its what I do when I go to bars.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
have you DATED for 2 weeks or are you an official couple for 2 weeks[having dated for 6 months}? BIG difference. But I wouldn't tell her-she won't ever tell you about kissing a guy
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Wow @ some of the advice in this thread.
tappa
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@SmoothTalker.. A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him? <== this!!
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