"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kiss Closing Easier than Number Closing

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Based on the past two days, that was the case with me. Girls I pulled happened to be on the dancefloor and I grinded with them so hot-n-heavy that we eventually started kissing. Unfortunately that puts me in a fool's mate situation as no conversation trickled between us and thus no comfort. At some point she joins back with her friends or excuses herself away. We all know that here she is ditching me. It forces me to have to follow her in order to continue where I left off. Usually that comes accross as AFC and never works out as I want it. What I want is to advance by getting a lay or a Day 2. What is keeping me from getting there? what I am doing wrong?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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did you try to isolate her somewhere shortly after talking for some rapport?
 
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problem is that we never got to talking at all. I was so enjoying the dancing with her that I was afraid that if I suggested we go outside to talk, shed say No and I would end up with nothing.
 
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I understand your pain. There have been times where I have kissed closed with no number to follow. No conversation at all. Then she'll disappear and I won't ever see her again.

Usually what I alwasy try to remember to do is at some point while we're dancing or kissing, I'll pull away and hand her my cell. They'll either put their number in there right away, or give me some crap about how they don't give out their number. If the latter, I simply shrug and walk away.
 
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probably happened because they were drunk, and didnt give you their number because their boyfriend would be pissed off. Chalk it up as some free action, and move on to the next.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hors can be tricky beasts to master. What you have to do is dance with her for about 4 songs, kiss her on the neck and also on the lips (duration: maybe ten minutes), and then tell her you should head back to your place for drinks. If you have danced with her and kinoed her correctly, then by this point she will quite possibly be putty in your hands.
 
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You were too into the moment, Grinding danceing was the only thing on your mind, At this point you could just take her hand and say "i want to talk to you for a sec..... before i leave " Take her to a quiet area and start off with comfort, Such As asking her somthing like "So what did you want to be when you were seven", then go from there.
 
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