"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kino-ing too much

antidonjuan

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Sometimes I kino girsl with a bunch of girls around me. And i think I have kinoed too many women, I read about kino is good but are there any side effects of kinoing too much and others see your kinoing?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BlakeW5

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You're doing too much or progressing with it too fast if it creeps her out.

Letting other girls see you kino is a type of social proof. One chick is comfortable with you touching her so why shouldn't others be? They'll assume it's just natural for you and part of your personality so they too will be more receptive to it.
 

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Also, when I iniate kino to a girl, am I telling her that I want to have sex with her?
 

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Yes and no. It's not necessarily saying "I want sex" but people don't tend to touch others they're uninterested in either right? You are showing her that your comfortable touching attractive females (you'd be surprised how many guys aren't), and likewise you're getting her comfortable with your touch. Both are important if you want to progress sexually. Nothings more of a turn-off to girls than when a guy goes to make a move and she can sense his hesitancy.
 

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if you got game, there's no such thing as too much kino.

the only way they'll feel creeped out from you touching them too much is if they don't feel comfortable around you.

just be a fun, social guy, and touch away (non-creepily)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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antidonjuan

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Yea but publicly is it bad to escalate kino? Just touching them on the arm and pushing around doesn't seem to go any further. What is the next step?
 

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dude of course you're not gonna feel them up and **** in public, especially if youre still in high school (unless you're dating the girl, in which case thats fine and a fun way to get her warmed up).

touching, bumping, pushing, secret hand shakes, thumb wars, tickling, its all good man as long as you aren't being weird about it.

kino is something to be used in conjunction with socializing. if you're just touching and not talking about anything interesting or anything at ALL then, well, you're a dumbass.
 

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remember, one point of kino is that it is going to be mainly subconcious. the first act of kino should be stealthy (brush on arm/shoulder, hand on back to say hi without surprising her), and escalate slowly enough that she doesn't notice 'wow he's really touching me a lot, or touching parts i'm not comfortable with yet'.
be stealthy with your escalation, even if that means progressing slowly. unless she's a freaky chick and totally digs you ;)
 

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well, if u ask me, it first of all, depends on the girl how fast or far she can take it. secondly, when we actually speak of subtle kino, we are not talking of accidental kinos, the kino is supposed to do its job which only happens when she is open to ur touching her, u can test her if she is ready by palm readin technique, playful dancing, thumb wrestling, etc. if she si open to this and enjoying this, she is actually open to ur fvcking her. so first thing is getting the vibe and getting in her emotional personal space and then u should actually start REAL kino, before that some protective or playful kino. what is kino? kino is a way of getting two individuals close and comfortable together in a physical way, not necessarily sex. dont any of u put your arm around ur sister while walking together? thats an example of kino. though she knows u r treating her as a little brat but still that act brings u two closer. we are close to those persons physically who are in our best's and most preferred's list. thats what a kino actually does. kino means sex only when u actually combine the sexual tension with it. got me? good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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