"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KINO and telegraphing interest

SicGG

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Here's something I'm caught up on: I read that KINO should happen as soon as possible. But I also know that it telegraphs an interest, which is a bad thing (in the initial stages)...

ANYWAY let me just tell you my problem this relates to


I like this girl, I've demonstrated social value, blah blah, I get a lot of stares from her like she likes me. I had sit across the room from her before in the only class I will have and in the next day or two we're changing seats and I'll be sitting next to her.

I havent really talked with her at all this year so when I go over to my seat should I

A) KINO and a hi and talk (telegraphs interest)
B) just a hi (no telegraphing, just being a guy she likes)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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jdawgmcb

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Try the kino, just saying "Hi" makes you sound like a robot..

What have you got to lose? Remember you only live ONCE.
 

djweses89

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yea dude im still struggle with just doin it sometimes but always member you ether dont do nothin and nothin happends and you dont get the girl, or you try suck it up try talking to her using kino show her your confident and yea you might not get her but then again you might, but ether way trying you still have a better chance than not tryin.
 

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Any responses from some more accomplished DJ's?

This is not a question of confidence, but of what the optimal move is to make.
 

Supremo

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For SURE use kino.
Don't wait around for it to happen.
MAKE IT HAPPEN!

I literally JUST had a revelation last night. Especially in high school, guys tend to think that the girl they like is "the one" and they get all over-the-top about screwing it up.

But just GO FOR IT! Start hitting her shoulder, start bumping her into things, touch her waist, give her a hug and spin her around, give her a piggyback ride.

She will think you are WAY more fun for adding kino into your interactions than just a simple "hi" or "what's up"

Really guys, it DOESN'T MATTER what happens. If this chick denies you because you playfully bumped into her. Bust on her for being so uptight. If that still doesn't work. She definitely isn't the one for you. There's finer fishes in the sea.

As David DeAngelo said, "When you talk to a girl, you're giving her front row seats to YOUR show. If she doesn't appreciate it, then her loss, because theres THOUSANDS of other girls who would do ANYTHING to be in her spot."

Try it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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