"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KINO and telegraphing interest

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Here's something I'm caught up on: I read that KINO should happen as soon as possible. But I also know that it telegraphs an interest, which is a bad thing (in the initial stages)...

ANYWAY let me just tell you my problem this relates to


I like this girl, I've demonstrated social value, blah blah, I get a lot of stares from her like she likes me. I had sit across the room from her before in the only class I will have and in the next day or two we're changing seats and I'll be sitting next to her.

I havent really talked with her at all this year so when I go over to my seat should I

A) KINO and a hi and talk (telegraphs interest)
B) just a hi (no telegraphing, just being a guy she likes)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Try the kino, just saying "Hi" makes you sound like a robot..

What have you got to lose? Remember you only live ONCE.
 

djweses89

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yea dude im still struggle with just doin it sometimes but always member you ether dont do nothin and nothin happends and you dont get the girl, or you try suck it up try talking to her using kino show her your confident and yea you might not get her but then again you might, but ether way trying you still have a better chance than not tryin.
 

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Any responses from some more accomplished DJ's?

This is not a question of confidence, but of what the optimal move is to make.
 

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For SURE use kino.
Don't wait around for it to happen.
MAKE IT HAPPEN!

I literally JUST had a revelation last night. Especially in high school, guys tend to think that the girl they like is "the one" and they get all over-the-top about screwing it up.

But just GO FOR IT! Start hitting her shoulder, start bumping her into things, touch her waist, give her a hug and spin her around, give her a piggyback ride.

She will think you are WAY more fun for adding kino into your interactions than just a simple "hi" or "what's up"

Really guys, it DOESN'T MATTER what happens. If this chick denies you because you playfully bumped into her. Bust on her for being so uptight. If that still doesn't work. She definitely isn't the one for you. There's finer fishes in the sea.

As David DeAngelo said, "When you talk to a girl, you're giving her front row seats to YOUR show. If she doesn't appreciate it, then her loss, because theres THOUSANDS of other girls who would do ANYTHING to be in her spot."

Try it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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