"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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KINO and telegraphing interest

SicGG

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Here's something I'm caught up on: I read that KINO should happen as soon as possible. But I also know that it telegraphs an interest, which is a bad thing (in the initial stages)...

ANYWAY let me just tell you my problem this relates to


I like this girl, I've demonstrated social value, blah blah, I get a lot of stares from her like she likes me. I had sit across the room from her before in the only class I will have and in the next day or two we're changing seats and I'll be sitting next to her.

I havent really talked with her at all this year so when I go over to my seat should I

A) KINO and a hi and talk (telegraphs interest)
B) just a hi (no telegraphing, just being a guy she likes)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jdawgmcb

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Try the kino, just saying "Hi" makes you sound like a robot..

What have you got to lose? Remember you only live ONCE.
 

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yea dude im still struggle with just doin it sometimes but always member you ether dont do nothin and nothin happends and you dont get the girl, or you try suck it up try talking to her using kino show her your confident and yea you might not get her but then again you might, but ether way trying you still have a better chance than not tryin.
 

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Any responses from some more accomplished DJ's?

This is not a question of confidence, but of what the optimal move is to make.
 

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For SURE use kino.
Don't wait around for it to happen.
MAKE IT HAPPEN!

I literally JUST had a revelation last night. Especially in high school, guys tend to think that the girl they like is "the one" and they get all over-the-top about screwing it up.

But just GO FOR IT! Start hitting her shoulder, start bumping her into things, touch her waist, give her a hug and spin her around, give her a piggyback ride.

She will think you are WAY more fun for adding kino into your interactions than just a simple "hi" or "what's up"

Really guys, it DOESN'T MATTER what happens. If this chick denies you because you playfully bumped into her. Bust on her for being so uptight. If that still doesn't work. She definitely isn't the one for you. There's finer fishes in the sea.

As David DeAngelo said, "When you talk to a girl, you're giving her front row seats to YOUR show. If she doesn't appreciate it, then her loss, because theres THOUSANDS of other girls who would do ANYTHING to be in her spot."

Try it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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