"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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xbills22

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i have a hard time fittin in with people. i cant really talk to girls that good. i thinks its cuz im too self consious of what i might say or somethin like that. i dont even know what it is i just cant be myself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You don't need to fit in as long as you don't have too many annoying personality traits. Look at it this way, if you act like yourself, if you act like the way you want to act, you will fit in.
 

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ya but thats the thing, i cant. i just draw blanks when im with people. like ill think of things i coulda said or done like an hour after they happen.
 

Poonani Maker

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Look dude, you don't love yourself. If you don't love yourself then people won't love you back. You hafta get selfish as you'll ever be. Say, "This is MY car. This is MY ride. No one can ride it better than me!" and "I'm the King" of My reality. "Get in or get the fvck out!"
 
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