"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Met a POF girl, who is a HB 8 on her best day, dmpkin body, freak in bed..even got an okayish personality

But has some baggage;

8 year old son having therapy, dad died 5 years ago
Having therapy herself over issues with her ex dying
Hasn't worked in 5 years
Lives on benefits
Caught her telling me a BIG lie recently
Epilepsy - she can never drive
Random bouts of horrific exzma
2 domineering older sisters who interviene
No savings/goals/ambitions
Tons of exes, ex fbs lurking in background etc

Should I consider a relationship on the grounds of her looks? Or is this suicide?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No red flags that I can see. Put a ring on that shvt before someone else beats you to the punch.
 
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I don't like to say that anyone is undateable. But I don't know enough about you to determine if you're right for each other, relationshipwise.

If her ex died and was the father of her child, that sucks. Were they married though? Or just shacking up?

In any case, I just feel really bad for this girl. She really needs a good opportunity in life and I don't think she's going to get it.
 
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Yeah partly I feel sorry for her. Previously she had a ring of 5 or 6 guys on of as FBs who ere regularly smashing her, as she said she wanted to feel loved and respected
 
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LorenzoVonM said:
No red flags that I can see. Put a ring on that shvt before someone else beats you to the punch.
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Ha!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hyper2010 said:
Yeah partly I feel sorry for her. Previously she had a ring of 5 or 6 guys on of as FBs who ere regularly smashing her, as she said she wanted to feel loved and respected
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Law 10 from the great book 48 Laws of Power:

Infection: Avoid the unhappy & unlucky:

"You can die from someone else's misery - emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy & fortunate instead."


Its one thing to get involved with a girl who you were unaware that has a boat load of issues. But to walk in to a situation like that is like swimming with sharks and being surprised at the outcome.

Work on yourself. Being a DJ is about bettering yourself, having options and most importantly realizing you cannot save anyone.











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Red flags, bells, whistles, air horns, bull horns, loudspeakers, sirens, flashing strobes, a blimp, and your Momma pleading to you saying "Sonny, don't do it!"
 
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jesus christ i cant believe what some guys are willing to put up with for some sex
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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foreverAFC said:
jesus christ i cant believe what some guys are willing to put up with for some sex
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Right?

I mean... I can understand listening to a girl talk about one of her exes for a little bit while you drink her alcohol and then fvck her half an hour later... but that's probably the farthest I'll go.
 
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