When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
1) exactly, you have less opportunities to stuff up or for one of your m8s to stuff up by remindin you of the time you pissed yourself in junior high (or whatever, im english).Originally posted by Jerky Boi
I don't think it's all that much easier for a few reasons:
1. You don't get to talk to her all that often during the week.
2. You don't really know if she's talking to other guys.
3. It'd be really easy for her to start messing with someone else. Think about it; He's there, you're not
Of course, there are lots of upsides to going out with someone that goes to another school. I've gone out and talked to a few girls before that went to different schools. Although, if I had a choice, I'd rather be with someone that I can see a lot more. Just my opinion..