Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Anti Slut DefenseOriginally posted by ShyRyder
ASD???
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ok how do i handle it in regard too her boyfriend?Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Anti Slut Defense
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Oh man, I hate chicks like that. I used to think the ones that said they didn't have boyfriends, or had broken up with them were annoying, but apparently, this one is blatant with her screwed up bullsh*t. I wouldn't even bother with this one. Man, that's fawked.Originally posted by backbreaker
i ran into a girl, fine as hell, probably the finest girl I have ever talked to, that was like that.
She actually came up to ME, she was a waitress at a bar... we exchanged numbers, I called her a couple of days later and she said she was going to come to my city (she lived 30 mins away) and we were going to kick it.
so she calls me and tells me a couple of days later she is going to she her Bf instead.. didn't even know she had a BF, but what the hell.. Okay, you do your thing.
So I say forget it.
then the next time I saw her, she ran up to me gave me a hug and a kis son the cheek, and bougt me a Corona.. She then told me how interested she was in coming over my apartment, which was right up the street. I'm like, whatever, you come if you want, but i'm not banking on it.
Does the same thing again... "i'm just not comfortable because my BF might not like that'
again, I didn't care because she did it before.
So I see her about a month later, and I"m drunk this time. So she comes up to me and does the same thing, giving the attention and I tell her I don't have time for **** Teasers... She gets offended by this and puts it on heavy. She not only told me she wanted to come over, she planned to st op by my house when she got off work, gave me some nice Kinko and everything... the whole time, it's like I was saying to myself.. dude, you know what'sg onig to happen.
And she did it again.. "I'm not sure my Bf would appriacate me coming over your house"
so I said **** it, and I ****ed her coworker, who I also invited over her house.
Once she found out about that she got mad, but I didn't give a damn, she had 3 strikes already... but damn she was fine
She sounds like she was trying to mess with you, then had a tantrum when she realised she couldn't. She sounds like the type that obviously gets alot of attention, but because you weren't giving it, she tried all kinds of weird shyt.Originally posted by backbreaker
lol, I don't think you understand how fine this girl was...
I don't give out that compliment very easily.
This girl was so fine, that the fact that she was interested in me, pretty much gave me manifast desinty on every cute/hot waitress at the bar.
I actually went to HS with her, so I knew her already...she was voted the most beautiful person at our school then.
lol, of course I am kidding, I would never give a girl that many chances because she was "born with good genes", but she was good looking.
The thing abou tit, I never presued her.. she did everything.. my whole attitude was "look, if you want to, ,lets go, but i'm not crying or chasing you because I don't expect anything already"
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Is this the same girl you fawked over at the bar? The attention ho you played?Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
In my opinion, I wouldn't even bother talking to this chick. I've had a similar situation with a girl that came onto me alot, even in the presence of her boyriend. You gotta watch out how much you piss them off though, because this one ended up resorting to spreading a whole lot of lies about me, that I kept hitting on her and other shyt, which she did deliberately so that it would get back to my girlfriend. She caused me a whole lot of trouble and damaged my reputation amongst some people who took her word for it.