I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Anti Slut DefenseOriginally posted by ShyRyder
ASD???
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ok how do i handle it in regard too her boyfriend?Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Anti Slut Defense
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Oh man, I hate chicks like that. I used to think the ones that said they didn't have boyfriends, or had broken up with them were annoying, but apparently, this one is blatant with her screwed up bullsh*t. I wouldn't even bother with this one. Man, that's fawked.Originally posted by backbreaker
i ran into a girl, fine as hell, probably the finest girl I have ever talked to, that was like that.
She actually came up to ME, she was a waitress at a bar... we exchanged numbers, I called her a couple of days later and she said she was going to come to my city (she lived 30 mins away) and we were going to kick it.
so she calls me and tells me a couple of days later she is going to she her Bf instead.. didn't even know she had a BF, but what the hell.. Okay, you do your thing.
So I say forget it.
then the next time I saw her, she ran up to me gave me a hug and a kis son the cheek, and bougt me a Corona.. She then told me how interested she was in coming over my apartment, which was right up the street. I'm like, whatever, you come if you want, but i'm not banking on it.
Does the same thing again... "i'm just not comfortable because my BF might not like that'
again, I didn't care because she did it before.
So I see her about a month later, and I"m drunk this time. So she comes up to me and does the same thing, giving the attention and I tell her I don't have time for **** Teasers... She gets offended by this and puts it on heavy. She not only told me she wanted to come over, she planned to st op by my house when she got off work, gave me some nice Kinko and everything... the whole time, it's like I was saying to myself.. dude, you know what'sg onig to happen.
And she did it again.. "I'm not sure my Bf would appriacate me coming over your house"
so I said **** it, and I ****ed her coworker, who I also invited over her house.
Once she found out about that she got mad, but I didn't give a damn, she had 3 strikes already... but damn she was fine
She sounds like she was trying to mess with you, then had a tantrum when she realised she couldn't. She sounds like the type that obviously gets alot of attention, but because you weren't giving it, she tried all kinds of weird shyt.Originally posted by backbreaker
lol, I don't think you understand how fine this girl was...
I don't give out that compliment very easily.
This girl was so fine, that the fact that she was interested in me, pretty much gave me manifast desinty on every cute/hot waitress at the bar.
I actually went to HS with her, so I knew her already...she was voted the most beautiful person at our school then.
lol, of course I am kidding, I would never give a girl that many chances because she was "born with good genes", but she was good looking.
The thing abou tit, I never presued her.. she did everything.. my whole attitude was "look, if you want to, ,lets go, but i'm not crying or chasing you because I don't expect anything already"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Is this the same girl you fawked over at the bar? The attention ho you played?Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
In my opinion, I wouldn't even bother talking to this chick. I've had a similar situation with a girl that came onto me alot, even in the presence of her boyriend. You gotta watch out how much you piss them off though, because this one ended up resorting to spreading a whole lot of lies about me, that I kept hitting on her and other shyt, which she did deliberately so that it would get back to my girlfriend. She caused me a whole lot of trouble and damaged my reputation amongst some people who took her word for it.