"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Keeping Work and Play Separate

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I was starting to like a fellow co-worker over the past while when today I was given the employee handbook by a manager. It might be just a coincidence, but I really doubt it. I've asked a fellow co-worker, who I can trust, privately if he's been given the book as well.

In the book it mentions harassment, sexual harassment and advances, as well as conflict of interest. Under conflicts of interest, it generalizes that 'a conflict of interest occurs when personal interests appear to interfere with your responsibilities and duties required by your job and the business.'

I never saw eye to eye with keeping your personal interests separate, but if I'm not careful, I will lose this job over it.

What do you guys suggest I do? I think I should be friendly to this girl and leave it at that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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GuitarOnFire said:
I was starting to like a fellow co-worker over the past while when today I was given the employee handbook by a manager. It might be just a coincidence, but I really doubt it. I've asked a fellow co-worker, who I can trust, privately if he's been given the book as well.

In the book it mentions harassment, sexual harassment and advances, as well as conflict of interest. Under conflicts of interest, it generalizes that 'a conflict of interest occurs when personal interests appear to interfere with your responsibilities and duties required by your job and the business.'

I never saw eye to eye with keeping your personal interests separate, but if I'm not careful, I will lose this job over it.

What do you guys suggest I do? I think I should be friendly to this girl and leave it at that.

What's that saying?.... "Don't dip your pen in the company ink."
 

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Wth? Don't lose the job, just be friends.
 

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It looks like everyone was given the employee handbook. There's nothing quite like getting crazy social proof at work.
 
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