"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Keeping Work and Play Separate

GuitarOnFire

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I was starting to like a fellow co-worker over the past while when today I was given the employee handbook by a manager. It might be just a coincidence, but I really doubt it. I've asked a fellow co-worker, who I can trust, privately if he's been given the book as well.

In the book it mentions harassment, sexual harassment and advances, as well as conflict of interest. Under conflicts of interest, it generalizes that 'a conflict of interest occurs when personal interests appear to interfere with your responsibilities and duties required by your job and the business.'

I never saw eye to eye with keeping your personal interests separate, but if I'm not careful, I will lose this job over it.

What do you guys suggest I do? I think I should be friendly to this girl and leave it at that.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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GuitarOnFire said:
I was starting to like a fellow co-worker over the past while when today I was given the employee handbook by a manager. It might be just a coincidence, but I really doubt it. I've asked a fellow co-worker, who I can trust, privately if he's been given the book as well.

In the book it mentions harassment, sexual harassment and advances, as well as conflict of interest. Under conflicts of interest, it generalizes that 'a conflict of interest occurs when personal interests appear to interfere with your responsibilities and duties required by your job and the business.'

I never saw eye to eye with keeping your personal interests separate, but if I'm not careful, I will lose this job over it.

What do you guys suggest I do? I think I should be friendly to this girl and leave it at that.

What's that saying?.... "Don't dip your pen in the company ink."
 

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Wth? Don't lose the job, just be friends.
 

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It looks like everyone was given the employee handbook. There's nothing quite like getting crazy social proof at work.
 
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