"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Keeping Work and Play Separate

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I was starting to like a fellow co-worker over the past while when today I was given the employee handbook by a manager. It might be just a coincidence, but I really doubt it. I've asked a fellow co-worker, who I can trust, privately if he's been given the book as well.

In the book it mentions harassment, sexual harassment and advances, as well as conflict of interest. Under conflicts of interest, it generalizes that 'a conflict of interest occurs when personal interests appear to interfere with your responsibilities and duties required by your job and the business.'

I never saw eye to eye with keeping your personal interests separate, but if I'm not careful, I will lose this job over it.

What do you guys suggest I do? I think I should be friendly to this girl and leave it at that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GuitarOnFire said:
I was starting to like a fellow co-worker over the past while when today I was given the employee handbook by a manager. It might be just a coincidence, but I really doubt it. I've asked a fellow co-worker, who I can trust, privately if he's been given the book as well.

In the book it mentions harassment, sexual harassment and advances, as well as conflict of interest. Under conflicts of interest, it generalizes that 'a conflict of interest occurs when personal interests appear to interfere with your responsibilities and duties required by your job and the business.'

I never saw eye to eye with keeping your personal interests separate, but if I'm not careful, I will lose this job over it.

What do you guys suggest I do? I think I should be friendly to this girl and leave it at that.

What's that saying?.... "Don't dip your pen in the company ink."
 

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Wth? Don't lose the job, just be friends.
 

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It looks like everyone was given the employee handbook. There's nothing quite like getting crazy social proof at work.
 
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