Fly By Night
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...when they look away when you look at them.
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Keeping eye contact is hard...
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
HalfAddict
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That is the time to approach, if you make solid eye contact and she quickly looks away it is usually a good sign. Looking down after eye contact is commonly considered a sign of submission.
http://changingminds.org/techniques/body/parts_body_language/eyes_body_language.htm
There is lots of material to be found on the subject. I make it a point to look everyone in the eye, or at least try, it is some of the greatest non-verbal communication you can master.
http://changingminds.org/techniques/body/parts_body_language/eyes_body_language.htm
There is lots of material to be found on the subject. I make it a point to look everyone in the eye, or at least try, it is some of the greatest non-verbal communication you can master.
Fly By Night
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Thanks for that info, normally when people look away, I look away as well assuming that they do not want to associate with me or feel as if it will be intimidating to them.
I was able to make an approach the other day, but it didn't go anywhere. After reflecting on it, I realized that I made almost no eye contact. Lesson learned, when I approach my next target, I will make firm (but not intimidating) eye contact with her.
I was able to make an approach the other day, but it didn't go anywhere. After reflecting on it, I realized that I made almost no eye contact. Lesson learned, when I approach my next target, I will make firm (but not intimidating) eye contact with her.
cablecow15
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Thats a very good sign
here is a very basic way to read eye contact
1 she looks down (this is like a dog rolling over , submission)
2 she looks up ( dont bother with this one , this is like her rolling her eyes at you)
3 looking to the side ( try to notice if her eyes were slightly up or slightly down as they cut to the side means slight interest or disinterest I usually continue eye contact and see if she gives me anymore signs)
4 multiple quick looks at you then breaking eye contact as soon as your eyes meet hers ( this is called the shy geisha like a shy little asian girl every time she sees you she cant help but look away good sign here )
keep solid eye contact , but dont try to burn a hole in her if shes not looking at you
(I did this once at a club and the girls friend noticed and said "you can just ask her to dance you dont have to keep staring at her" I was a little befuddled laughed it off and asked her for a dance , we danced and i got her number , but nothing came of it ) long story short keep bursts of strong eye contact , not hungry stares lol
here is a very basic way to read eye contact
1 she looks down (this is like a dog rolling over , submission)
2 she looks up ( dont bother with this one , this is like her rolling her eyes at you)
3 looking to the side ( try to notice if her eyes were slightly up or slightly down as they cut to the side means slight interest or disinterest I usually continue eye contact and see if she gives me anymore signs)
4 multiple quick looks at you then breaking eye contact as soon as your eyes meet hers ( this is called the shy geisha like a shy little asian girl every time she sees you she cant help but look away good sign here )
keep solid eye contact , but dont try to burn a hole in her if shes not looking at you
(I did this once at a club and the girls friend noticed and said "you can just ask her to dance you dont have to keep staring at her" I was a little befuddled laughed it off and asked her for a dance , we danced and i got her number , but nothing came of it ) long story short keep bursts of strong eye contact , not hungry stares lol
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HalfAddict
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That is the thing Fly, it is a little intimidating and there is nothing wrong with that. Like Cable said, just don't burn a hole in them.
I like to throw a sly smile and a little wave in myself, sometimes a wink even..
I like to throw a sly smile and a little wave in myself, sometimes a wink even..
Demonicale
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I'm alway's 100% confident in doing it in clubs,bars or a saturday night.
But in the hospital where i work we have looong corridoors, and i can't keep it up as i'm walking down them as i think it's alil creepy lol.
But if i shy away it's bad too
But in the hospital where i work we have looong corridoors, and i can't keep it up as i'm walking down them as i think it's alil creepy lol.
But if i shy away it's bad too
bcolon
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I work at a hospital too. And I know what your talking about. It's very awkward at first when you see someone you find attractive walking towards you from afar. They look at you and then when you two get close that's when for me it's either a quick "Hello" or "Good Morning". Pretty much all the girls will be very receptive and respond with a smile.Demonicale said:I'm alway's 100% confident in doing it in clubs,bars or a saturday night.
But in the hospital where i work we have looong corridoors, and i can't keep it up as i'm walking down them as i think it's alil creepy lol.
But if i shy away it's bad too
Keep at it. I think honestly working at the hospital is best for people who deal with social anxiety or have a hard time approaching people. Because your pretty much forced to there.
Demonicale
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Actually it's so simple i can't believe i did'nt think of that, ok well i'll give it a shot and see what happens .. haha thanksbcolon said: