"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lordeterra

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Learn from my mistake. When your at the top you will get false friends who want your demise but will be around you to get some of that shine and real enemies who will ACTIVELY try to bring you down. Trust on yourself. If you have to associate with someone make sure they make you look like a little boy in terms of what they are doing in other words they dominate you in whatever field. That’s all. I’ve lost years due to befriending weak people. Don’t make the mistakes I did!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mrgoodstuff

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Learn from my mistake. When your at the top you will get false friends who want your demise but will be around you to get some of that shine and real enemies who will ACTIVELY try to bring you down. Trust on yourself. If you have to associate with someone make sure they make you look like a little boy in terms of what they are doing in other words they dominate you in whatever field. That’s all. I’ve lost years due to befriending weak people. Don’t make the mistakes I did!
So befriend individuals ahead of you in life and your endeavors.
 

mrgoodstuff

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Yes. People are either making you stronger or weaker. If you don’t think this is the case, sorry your getting weaker
It probably is true. I've had mentors definitely ahead of me in whatever it is. And there is gain due to association. Also have been part of some very sharp groups. The same, increased gain and growth.

Then I've tried to relate to folks who don't understand or less committed on my path. Either the conversation drags me down or they gang up on me to bring me down.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SirBigBell

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Learn from my mistake. When your at the top you will get false friends who want your demise but will be around you to get some of that shine and real enemies who will ACTIVELY try to bring you down. Trust on yourself. If you have to associate with someone make sure they make you look like a little boy in terms of what they are doing in other words they dominate you in whatever field. That’s all. I’ve lost years due to befriending weak people. Don’t make the mistakes I did!
I realised in my early 20s that every single person I interacted with either drained or charged up my batteries. Jealous people, gossip mongers, manipulators, drama queens, mouthy basturds etc all drain your battery, while genuine friends, mentors, positive thinkers, comedians etc charge up your battery.

I quickly learnt to minimise interaction with drainers and maximise engagement with chargers. You cant completely avoid dealing with drainers because they are everywhere in life-critical sectors, mostly at work or at school if you are still in education; and some of them can actually help you attain your goals in life. Those who live more fulfilled and calmer lives have mastered the art of managing drainers and maximising chargers.

As a man, you are doomed if you choose a wife of girlfriend who is a drainer. You have to do everything within your gift to ensure that your woman is a charger. We get a break from drainers we meet at work or school, but there is no break from drainers we have in our personal lives. Thats why children who are raised in dysfunctional families end up broken and damaged, because their batteries were constantly on empty during their formative years.

Manage your drainers tightly and build your network of chargers. Life is sweeter when you master some of these principles.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BackInTheGame78

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Learn from my mistake. When your at the top you will get false friends who want your demise but will be around you to get some of that shine and real enemies who will ACTIVELY try to bring you down. Trust on yourself. If you have to associate with someone make sure they make you look like a little boy in terms of what they are doing in other words they dominate you in whatever field. That’s all. I’ve lost years due to befriending weak people. Don’t make the mistakes I did!
You can know pretty much everything you need to know about a person by seeing who the 5 people they spend the most time with in their lives are.
 

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Hence the expression "birds of a feather flock together."
 
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