"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Keep on truckin ?

nan3109

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Alright there is this girl I am infatuated with who is also my ex g/f who we dated for almost 3 years and I can't get my mind off of her even when we are apart now for the past month or so and we've even tried dating other people. We had plans to marry too. Also, she told me when we went out that she never kisses a guy she doesnt have sex with but the guy she went on some dates with she's kissed but didn't have sex with or anything. She told me always that she had to be in love to have sex with someone.

I called her up today and she told me she was busy and couldn't talk so i walked 3 floors down in the dorms to her room and asked her if i could come in and she let me. I had hand written her a letter telling her that basically I'm a better person now after our break and that I have changed. I told her that I know we were meant to be together and that I just wanted her to forgive me for the stuff I said and vice versa and to take her out on just one date to show her I've changed. After that I went downstairs to the computer lab and I asked her if I could ask her something so then we talked on the way to class about just random stuff and stuff abotu us too. She told me next year she was thinking of going to another college just because there's 50,000 new people and stuff (bad sign?). I asked her if it was to get away from me and she said no. I think there's a chance that we could get back together but I just need to try alot harder and stop being an asss and just be real.

But we live on campus and such and I don't know what to do. She always says she's busy but I walked her to class today and popped up in her room and she let me talk to her and stuff while she finished up her paper. We wanted to get married and she even told me when we were working on breaking up that "I really wanted to spend the rest of my life with you matt..."

So my question is, should I persue this? What should I do to help it out? And do not tell me to next, when you're in this much love and plan to marry it is hard to just next and find someone else when you can't get your mind off of them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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PoloBlue

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at your age, I recommend you end the relationship with your old ex-girlfriend, your still very young, you shouldnt even be thinking about marriage and settling down this early in your life.

I know one thing for sure your still too young for marriage, your future and career are more important right now, finish school and become more established.
 

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What is so hard about nexting a girl? It is hard I know, I just girls that have low-mid romantic interest in roster of several other girls while looking out for a girl I might really be interested in being around with.



Alright there is this girl I am infatuated...



She never kisses a guy and never has sex with a guy unless it means something? AND Rosie O Donnel is HB8.5 , I'd bang her 24/7.



....I think there's a chance that we could get back together but I just need to try alot harder and stop being an asss and just be real.



No man, There is no chance. Look at how obsessed you are with your former lover. All she's good for is maybe is f-buddy. You should aim for that and cut any emotional ties in hopes of being in a relationship with her.



...We wanted to get married and she even told me when we were working on breaking up that "I really wanted to spend the rest of my life with you matt..."



When a girl says I want to be with you forever, that's a phucken red flag for LIAR, especially if you're in America..land of 50% broken marriages.
 

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you have 444 posts and you are acting like a complete WUSS. she probably stopped be attracted to you when you started acting like a needy wuss-bag who did everything for her. your post sucks.
 

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I hate to jump on the band wagon, but if you broke up, you broke up for a reason. Why do you want to be with her so bad? this feeling you keep talking about, the one where you miss her, its addiction. Go out, get some beers, meet a cute freshmen girl take her to you room and fuk her brains out. You will then have another girl you can stock and a more interesting topic of discussion/
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Re: Re: Keep on truckin ?

Originally posted by KingPinp
I hate to jump on the band wagon, but if you broke up, you broke up for a reason. Why do you want to be with her so bad? this feeling you keep talking about, the one where you miss her, its addiction. Go out, get some beers, meet a cute freshmen girl take her to you room and fuk her brains out. You will then have another girl you can stock and a more interesting topic of discussion/
actually guys, ive met and ****ed about 50 girls, none of which I am too proud of. However, I can never find a girlfriend or girl who chases after me. I always meet them at a party, or through friends, and get laid right away with the girl who sometimes I dont even consider all that cute. And then that's it. All she wrote. No more hanging out really.
 
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