This girl that I've been seeing for a over a month and a half is giving me signals (I think) that she wants to just be friends. When I talk to her these days, she doesn't sound enthusiastic anymore like she used to. Yesterday when I spoke to her, she said that I should check out this place because there's a lot of pretty girls there. Do you see the hidden message in that statement?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Keep her or sweep her?
- Thread starter ematsuda
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
PuertoRican_Lover
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She disrespected you, or she was trying to get a reaction from you to tell her that she was pretty - maybe she thinks you are a player!! She thinks you don't see her as pretty! Do you ever compliment her? She could have low self esteem.
I would have said "So it is not someplace where you would hang out then!" smiling of course. Then rub your chin, I will investigate it myself to see if what you say is true!
Would you tell her to go someplace to meet pretty guys?? Huh?
I would have said "So it is not someplace where you would hang out then!" smiling of course. Then rub your chin, I will investigate it myself to see if what you say is true!
Would you tell her to go someplace to meet pretty guys?? Huh?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So you think she was fishing for compliments? Maybe so... I haven't a clue with this chick. She's good though - not the normal girl I run into. Very strong, very game. A "take it or leave it" attitude. Me? the same way.
But for now, I gotta keep her on ice. Pride - I think keeps us from ever getting together again.
Long story with this one. If anyone was keeping up with my posts, it'll say a lot. But no one ever does that here and I don't blame them. Too much crap to sift through.
It's like a duel with her. Her game is as strong as mine. So patience is the key here - I think. Eventually, I'll land her - but I see only headaches in the futrure. The only thing that'll keep me happy and interested, to tell you the truth. Go figuire.
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LOL...check the place out! Tell her all your stories of lust and libido that come from it. And thank her for the tip.
If she's happy and enthusiastic for you, then you're just friends, but at least you'll have 1) a good female friend who can hook you up, and 2) a bunch of girls you met at a new place.
What'll be really neat to see, though, is if when you tell her this, she gets real quiet.
If she's happy and enthusiastic for you, then you're just friends, but at least you'll have 1) a good female friend who can hook you up, and 2) a bunch of girls you met at a new place.
What'll be really neat to see, though, is if when you tell her this, she gets real quiet.
I've been to that place before. It's no big deal. She has friends that go there that SHE thinks is good looking but I don't. What upsets me is that she made the comment in the first place. Low IL. I must have turned her off somewhere in our meetings. When we meet, it's usually at a bar so I'm drunk and come across as too horny. She thinks I only want her for sex so she repels.