This girl that I've been seeing for a over a month and a half is giving me signals (I think) that she wants to just be friends. When I talk to her these days, she doesn't sound enthusiastic anymore like she used to. Yesterday when I spoke to her, she said that I should check out this place because there's a lot of pretty girls there. Do you see the hidden message in that statement?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Keep her or sweep her?
- Thread starter ematsuda
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
PuertoRican_Lover
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She disrespected you, or she was trying to get a reaction from you to tell her that she was pretty - maybe she thinks you are a player!! She thinks you don't see her as pretty! Do you ever compliment her? She could have low self esteem.
I would have said "So it is not someplace where you would hang out then!" smiling of course. Then rub your chin, I will investigate it myself to see if what you say is true!
Would you tell her to go someplace to meet pretty guys?? Huh?
I would have said "So it is not someplace where you would hang out then!" smiling of course. Then rub your chin, I will investigate it myself to see if what you say is true!
Would you tell her to go someplace to meet pretty guys?? Huh?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So you think she was fishing for compliments? Maybe so... I haven't a clue with this chick. She's good though - not the normal girl I run into. Very strong, very game. A "take it or leave it" attitude. Me? the same way.
But for now, I gotta keep her on ice. Pride - I think keeps us from ever getting together again.
Long story with this one. If anyone was keeping up with my posts, it'll say a lot. But no one ever does that here and I don't blame them. Too much crap to sift through.
It's like a duel with her. Her game is as strong as mine. So patience is the key here - I think. Eventually, I'll land her - but I see only headaches in the futrure. The only thing that'll keep me happy and interested, to tell you the truth. Go figuire.
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LOL...check the place out! Tell her all your stories of lust and libido that come from it. And thank her for the tip.
If she's happy and enthusiastic for you, then you're just friends, but at least you'll have 1) a good female friend who can hook you up, and 2) a bunch of girls you met at a new place.
What'll be really neat to see, though, is if when you tell her this, she gets real quiet.
If she's happy and enthusiastic for you, then you're just friends, but at least you'll have 1) a good female friend who can hook you up, and 2) a bunch of girls you met at a new place.
What'll be really neat to see, though, is if when you tell her this, she gets real quiet.
I've been to that place before. It's no big deal. She has friends that go there that SHE thinks is good looking but I don't. What upsets me is that she made the comment in the first place. Low IL. I must have turned her off somewhere in our meetings. When we meet, it's usually at a bar so I'm drunk and come across as too horny. She thinks I only want her for sex so she repels.