"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Kanye West is going to be next door to my work today
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJ_in_making
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y'all thought Kanye West was some little blonde girl??!:crackup:
that's inexcusable people....
DJ_in_making
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does Bush really not care about black people?
wait.. this is political subject isn't it?
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Obviously we know who that jacka$$ is. Why not goof on him by saying he's the antithesis of who he believes himself to be?
Oh, and his music is comparable to what I leave behind after eating corn and peanuts . . .
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Kerensky
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
al77
Master Don Juan
Lets just imagine Wyldfire is a 17y.o. gal. Does this statement above fits the image? Perfectly. The same level of attention to celebrities, the same level of thinking what is cool: not really the music, no... it seems like it doesn't even matter. What matter is the fact that "it is going to be a mad house getting into work".
How old are you Wyld? According to your 7000 somehting posts you .. you have seen life LOL
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
I want 10 seconds of my life back. Idiot.
dyce
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he's known for sampling old soul records
and for those who may not listen to hip hop, you might know him from his infamous comment "George Bush doesn't care about Black people" at the Hurricane Katrina celebrity telethon that caused a stir on the news