"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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just what you needed....

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This is a response to the ever increasing number of us trying to meet women through the computer/cell in any way shape or form and those of us stuck this website asking questions of what to do. ( and it's your lucky day cause I would have never done this unless we had a two-hour delay. I love teaching. :) )

First I am in no way a master DJ/PUA. (Just wanted to get that out of the way.) I've made my mistakes and keep making them everyday until one day I'll find that certain woman. There's no game between you and her. She doesn't ever really know you yet.The only game is between you and yourself. Do I pick up women all the time? NO! (p.s. That's why I chose my screen name, I'm being very picky.) Do I sit on the computer looking for women? NO! I get my a$$ out there and make mistakes. I don't sit in my comfort zone trying to pull them in through a computer screen by chat, or trying to figure out what to do next. Why do you think these women are on the computer in the first place? I'll tell you...

BECAUSE YOUR SORRY A$$ IS NOT OUT THERE TRYING TO MEET THEM! THAT'S WHY.

So now you know. I've made plenty of mistakes and you know what? My friends and family that witness them and myself laugh our a$$es off talking about what I did wrong. :laugh: And each time I say to myself, "At lest I grabbed my balls and tried." Hell even some of these HB's laugh their a$$es off. And why not? It was funny. I've even had them approach me and talk about it. Then I calmly say, "I've been laughing at that all week. Would you mind if I try again?" :cool:

So I have 3 pieces of advice:
1. (I already gave you this one. If you missed it I can't help you.)
2. When you do get out there don't try sooooo hard to meet women. Through observation of family, friends, and total strangers trying to do a pick-up, I've seen eagerness kill the deal. Relax, be a little funny and you won't scare her away.
3. There's no game. Talk to them all. Get comfortable in your own skin, so you can finally get off the computer. Read the stuff on this site and go start using it. In response to Casino's post: I started with Pook and MotU and Anti-Dump.

So while you're typing away next time chatting with that lovely lady (actually how do you know, this is a totally different topic) or debating what to do with the one you're stuck on, I want you to remember this: I just got her number, and have started on the next chick. So what are you going to do about that!

And yes this has all been said before, but the funny thing is I'm not reading it this time. I'm telling it to you...lol :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree sitting here complaining isn't going to get anyone anywhere....
The only way this stuff works is if you get out there and practice.

I also don't really approve of the whole internet dating thing....what, are people that lazy????
 

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yea, its like shopping for groceries online. damn, thats lazy....

"oh, i'll grab some bread, some milk, update my dating profile, check out if i won that auction, and blah blah blah...."

i think the information super-highway is turning into something beyond what we ever imagined: a death trap.

but hey, i laugh at danger. HAHAHA!!!

its about self control. u need to know when to get off. and just cuz u CAN do it online, doesnt mean u SHOULD. nothing can replace good ol' human interaction.
 
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Originally posted by Ace of Flames
nothing can replace good ol' human interaction.
AMEN!! I couldn't have said it better myself...

ADKdj
 
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