"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just want some support I guess - "dating" multiple women

Never_Scared

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I read the DJ Bible and "know" it's not only fine, but generally better to float multiple women while things aren't an LTR - but I kinda want your thoughts and better yet, some help in making it work (like not getting busted and if I do, what to do).

I've been seeing this one girl a week now, and she seems like the kind of girl who will fall into a relationship (supposing it works) within 2-3 weeks - which I want. But everyonce in awhile she drops some stuff that rings of low interest, and I've been chatting up another girl in my building who isn't as good looking, but seems to have a better personality. So what I'm getting at is, it's cool to date them both, but until what point? Also, anything I should do to avoid letting both know I'm dating the other (I think they go to the same religious functions, so I'm obviously not accompanying either).

Well, anything really to make this go well?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Desdinova

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So what I'm getting at is, it's cool to date them both, but until what point?
Date them until you either break up with them, or one wants a LTR. I found that by 2 months you pretty much know if she's LTR material or not.

Also, if you do get caught, just tell them that nothing has been discussed regarding the official relationship status.
 

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Just like a group of baboons or a pride of lions. Theres only 1 male that gets to pork all the females. Us humans have that instinctiveness designed into us as well. We want to pass on our genes to as many chicks as we can, except since with all the drama girls put us thru, and the advent of family law, usually one is more than a hand full for the average guy...

You're a DJ and that should be shared with as many lucky females that come your way. Don't think LTR until you decide its time for LTR....
 

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Originally posted by Never_Scared
I read the DJ Bible and "know" it's not only fine, but generally better to float multiple women while things aren't an LTR - but I kinda want your thoughts and better yet, some help in making it work (like not getting busted and if I do, what to do)....
Don't pretend, promote, emote, mislead or lead a woman to assume that you are exclusive. You don't need to tell her that you're dating anyone, just don't pretend that you are dating her.
 
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