"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just want some support I guess - "dating" multiple women

Never_Scared

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I read the DJ Bible and "know" it's not only fine, but generally better to float multiple women while things aren't an LTR - but I kinda want your thoughts and better yet, some help in making it work (like not getting busted and if I do, what to do).

I've been seeing this one girl a week now, and she seems like the kind of girl who will fall into a relationship (supposing it works) within 2-3 weeks - which I want. But everyonce in awhile she drops some stuff that rings of low interest, and I've been chatting up another girl in my building who isn't as good looking, but seems to have a better personality. So what I'm getting at is, it's cool to date them both, but until what point? Also, anything I should do to avoid letting both know I'm dating the other (I think they go to the same religious functions, so I'm obviously not accompanying either).

Well, anything really to make this go well?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Desdinova

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So what I'm getting at is, it's cool to date them both, but until what point?
Date them until you either break up with them, or one wants a LTR. I found that by 2 months you pretty much know if she's LTR material or not.

Also, if you do get caught, just tell them that nothing has been discussed regarding the official relationship status.
 

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Just like a group of baboons or a pride of lions. Theres only 1 male that gets to pork all the females. Us humans have that instinctiveness designed into us as well. We want to pass on our genes to as many chicks as we can, except since with all the drama girls put us thru, and the advent of family law, usually one is more than a hand full for the average guy...

You're a DJ and that should be shared with as many lucky females that come your way. Don't think LTR until you decide its time for LTR....
 

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Originally posted by Never_Scared
I read the DJ Bible and "know" it's not only fine, but generally better to float multiple women while things aren't an LTR - but I kinda want your thoughts and better yet, some help in making it work (like not getting busted and if I do, what to do)....
Don't pretend, promote, emote, mislead or lead a woman to assume that you are exclusive. You don't need to tell her that you're dating anyone, just don't pretend that you are dating her.
 
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