"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just want some support I guess - "dating" multiple women

Never_Scared

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I read the DJ Bible and "know" it's not only fine, but generally better to float multiple women while things aren't an LTR - but I kinda want your thoughts and better yet, some help in making it work (like not getting busted and if I do, what to do).

I've been seeing this one girl a week now, and she seems like the kind of girl who will fall into a relationship (supposing it works) within 2-3 weeks - which I want. But everyonce in awhile she drops some stuff that rings of low interest, and I've been chatting up another girl in my building who isn't as good looking, but seems to have a better personality. So what I'm getting at is, it's cool to date them both, but until what point? Also, anything I should do to avoid letting both know I'm dating the other (I think they go to the same religious functions, so I'm obviously not accompanying either).

Well, anything really to make this go well?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Desdinova

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So what I'm getting at is, it's cool to date them both, but until what point?
Date them until you either break up with them, or one wants a LTR. I found that by 2 months you pretty much know if she's LTR material or not.

Also, if you do get caught, just tell them that nothing has been discussed regarding the official relationship status.
 

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Just like a group of baboons or a pride of lions. Theres only 1 male that gets to pork all the females. Us humans have that instinctiveness designed into us as well. We want to pass on our genes to as many chicks as we can, except since with all the drama girls put us thru, and the advent of family law, usually one is more than a hand full for the average guy...

You're a DJ and that should be shared with as many lucky females that come your way. Don't think LTR until you decide its time for LTR....
 

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Originally posted by Never_Scared
I read the DJ Bible and "know" it's not only fine, but generally better to float multiple women while things aren't an LTR - but I kinda want your thoughts and better yet, some help in making it work (like not getting busted and if I do, what to do)....
Don't pretend, promote, emote, mislead or lead a woman to assume that you are exclusive. You don't need to tell her that you're dating anyone, just don't pretend that you are dating her.
 
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