hey..i have a problem..i just started college and are always feeling down with my insecurities which i know its NOTHING REALLY but why is it still bothering me? i feel that this is driving my friends away from me..i did this before..and it didnt turn out good,my best friend is in the college with me,however i dont know why is he thinking bad about me,he says something like i only want to be friends with him when i need him.Hey i dont have bad intentions on him.its just that i feel that i'm not spending much time with him like usual as before we started college.this has got to change man.the reason of my issue here is i dont feel confident about myself and cant handle pressure well.Look, all i want is to be a top student. I am generally quiet and shy.Any tips guys? I really want to have a great life.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just started college and feeling down,cant change myself
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Apollo
Senior Don Juan
Realize that it's all in your head.
Hit the gym up or start running. The main thing is to keep busy...it sounds as if you have too much time on your hands.
Hit the gym up or start running. The main thing is to keep busy...it sounds as if you have too much time on your hands.
College is the time to change yourself for the better, if you were the shy nerdy kid in highschool, you can be the extrovert mr populairity in college. No one there knows your past, but they can be part of your present and you can start finding the girls of your future today.
"all i want is to be a top student"
Your setting your self up to fail IMHO. Just do your best and let the future attend to its self. Who cares if your not at the top as long as you know you tried.
All that pressure is in your head.
Your setting your self up to fail IMHO. Just do your best and let the future attend to its self. Who cares if your not at the top as long as you know you tried.
All that pressure is in your head.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Colin O'Brien
Don Juan
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this is so true man..x86 said:"all i want is to be a top student"
Your setting your self up to fail IMHO. Just do your best and let the future attend to its self. Who cares if your not at the top as long as you know you tried.
All that pressure is in your head.
sorry guys for posting this on the wrong board...my bad...
Thanks guys for the advice. Really appreciate it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.