Short story:
Ended things with ex-gf (26 years old but cheating psycho). At some weekend after that i went to a friend couple and met with some others there. Cooked something and then the drinking started. First beer, then vodka.
Nothing special happened after that.
But recently i heard the female of the couple hosting the evening making jokes that a female friend of hers was also there this evening and she invited her to cheer me up after the breakup. And that i only had a debate about professional issues with this female (She is some kind of Marketing/IT/SocialMedia Consultant).
What i totally didnt realize up until hearing theses jokes:
For me it was simply drinking with friends and I 100% treated her like a male. Made some normal jokes... Shes maybe 32 years, old looks ok, but looks faded because of her carreer i think. Intelligent, self-confident, good job... All the BLABLA.
For my drunk brain it was simply: Career-Lady, not my type. She begins to talk about her job, how she got a pay rise recently and i do the exact same thing i would do with a male professional: e.g. talk facts and debate on principles about how IT/social media changes our behaviour.... Some normal jokes. But for me it was only drinking with a creature i didnt have sexual interest in --> Like talking to a man.
Crazy how our brain/d*ck... simple doesnt give a f*ck about women wanting to be better men...
They would surely say: Men are just afraid of confident women.
But my radar simply didnt see her as a creature worth mating with....
Ended things with ex-gf (26 years old but cheating psycho). At some weekend after that i went to a friend couple and met with some others there. Cooked something and then the drinking started. First beer, then vodka.
Nothing special happened after that.But recently i heard the female of the couple hosting the evening making jokes that a female friend of hers was also there this evening and she invited her to cheer me up after the breakup. And that i only had a debate about professional issues with this female
(She is some kind of Marketing/IT/SocialMedia Consultant).What i totally didnt realize up until hearing theses jokes:
For me it was simply drinking with friends and I 100% treated her like a male. Made some normal jokes... Shes maybe 32 years, old looks ok, but looks faded because of her carreer i think. Intelligent, self-confident, good job... All the BLABLA.
For my drunk brain it was simply: Career-Lady, not my type. She begins to talk about her job, how she got a pay rise recently and i do the exact same thing i would do with a male professional: e.g. talk facts and debate on principles about how IT/social media changes our behaviour.... Some normal jokes. But for me it was only drinking with a creature i didnt have sexual interest in --> Like talking to a man.
Crazy how our brain/d*ck... simple doesnt give a f*ck about women wanting to be better men...
They would surely say: Men are just afraid of confident women.
But my radar simply didnt see her as a creature worth mating with....
