So moved into this new apartment building and my neighbor is hot as hell. Saw her the first couple of weeks and just kind of nodded and said hi, thought it would be smart to just not jump at the first chance to ask her for her number. Eventually did have a convo with her. She moved down from Texas so I told her that I'd take her out some time as I know my city pretty well and got her number couple of days ago. I pretty much see this girl once a day in my building. I am currently thinking my best bet is to keep seeing her and just say hi and not talk to her much and not contact her or ask her out for a while. I think this will really get her thinking. She is smoking hot and I am sure every guy that gets her number instantly asks her out. What do you guys think in terms of when I should contact her and ask her out? Also since I see her in person so much, should I just ask her out within a convo we are having when I see her or just text her and ask her out?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Just Got My Hot Neighbors Number.. How do I proceed?
- Thread starter Jake722
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Just ask her out. Dont wait because if you two see each other a lot around the building, she could be wondering "hmm, i wonder if hes going to ask me out or not" While your thinking of doing it. Just go ahead and invite her out. If she says "hmm, i dunno hehe" Then just smile and say, "Ok, well text me and let me know, I was thinking of doing something this weekend" THEN you wait it out because you have already knocked the ball in her court. If she doesnt get in contact with you then you know not to waste your time thinking about asking her out or not. On the flip side, the best thing that could happen is she says "OK" and you have yourself a date with a HB. You have an advantage over the other guys right now. Although other guys may have her number, you get to actually see and interact with her in person regularly. Capitalize on it.Jake722 said:
This is my point. I want her wondering if I am going to ask her out. I think that builds attraction. She completely expects me to contact her sometime in near future since I told her I'd take her out and got her number. If I now don't, it will drive her a little crazy. I obviously won't wait too long to ask her out because that won't work either but I think laying off for this weekend could be smart.In2theGame said:
Tictac
Banned
While you're wondering if she's wondering, 5 other guys are moving in.
Too much 'strategy' not enough action.
Too much 'strategy' not enough action.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Like he said, You snooze, You lose. Ask her out before another guy beats you to it.Tictac said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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yep! When this eventually blows up, she'll be stalking you when you bring your next girl over for a sleep over! While you and new girl are going at it, the disgruntled ex will be in the parking lot slashing your tires and writing sweet nothings on the side of your car!TheMonkeyKing said: