So moved into this new apartment building and my neighbor is hot as hell. Saw her the first couple of weeks and just kind of nodded and said hi, thought it would be smart to just not jump at the first chance to ask her for her number. Eventually did have a convo with her. She moved down from Texas so I told her that I'd take her out some time as I know my city pretty well and got her number couple of days ago. I pretty much see this girl once a day in my building. I am currently thinking my best bet is to keep seeing her and just say hi and not talk to her much and not contact her or ask her out for a while. I think this will really get her thinking. She is smoking hot and I am sure every guy that gets her number instantly asks her out. What do you guys think in terms of when I should contact her and ask her out? Also since I see her in person so much, should I just ask her out within a convo we are having when I see her or just text her and ask her out?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Just Got My Hot Neighbors Number.. How do I proceed?
- Thread starter Jake722
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Just ask her out. Dont wait because if you two see each other a lot around the building, she could be wondering "hmm, i wonder if hes going to ask me out or not" While your thinking of doing it. Just go ahead and invite her out. If she says "hmm, i dunno hehe" Then just smile and say, "Ok, well text me and let me know, I was thinking of doing something this weekend" THEN you wait it out because you have already knocked the ball in her court. If she doesnt get in contact with you then you know not to waste your time thinking about asking her out or not. On the flip side, the best thing that could happen is she says "OK" and you have yourself a date with a HB. You have an advantage over the other guys right now. Although other guys may have her number, you get to actually see and interact with her in person regularly. Capitalize on it.Jake722 said:
This is my point. I want her wondering if I am going to ask her out. I think that builds attraction. She completely expects me to contact her sometime in near future since I told her I'd take her out and got her number. If I now don't, it will drive her a little crazy. I obviously won't wait too long to ask her out because that won't work either but I think laying off for this weekend could be smart.In2theGame said:
Tictac
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While you're wondering if she's wondering, 5 other guys are moving in.
Too much 'strategy' not enough action.
Too much 'strategy' not enough action.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
Like he said, You snooze, You lose. Ask her out before another guy beats you to it.Tictac said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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yep! When this eventually blows up, she'll be stalking you when you bring your next girl over for a sleep over! While you and new girl are going at it, the disgruntled ex will be in the parking lot slashing your tires and writing sweet nothings on the side of your car!TheMonkeyKing said: