BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
It's my first girlfriend ever, so I was wondering something. How the hell should I act with her? Just treat her like I would treat a girl I'm flirting with? or act different? I don't know :S
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Just got my first girlfriend, now I have a question
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Docs
Banned
I better say something before someone else starts going all SS.com on you.
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Act like you think you should. I'm completely being honest here. She's your first girlfriend, and unmistakenly, probably not your last. You have some guideance, as by not being a complete wussy to her, but at the same time, you don't need to apply heavy amounts of seduction to manipulate her the way you want.
Basically..let it roll, do what you feel is right, and make sure you gain experience from everything. If it happens that you last a few years, then damn good on you. If it's a few months, even a couple weeks, then damn good on you.
As for trying out some of the material on here, take it with some common sense (in varying doses). If it's not working, stop! lol
Enjoy, and good job! :woo:
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Act like you think you should. I'm completely being honest here. She's your first girlfriend, and unmistakenly, probably not your last. You have some guideance, as by not being a complete wussy to her, but at the same time, you don't need to apply heavy amounts of seduction to manipulate her the way you want.
Basically..let it roll, do what you feel is right, and make sure you gain experience from everything. If it happens that you last a few years, then damn good on you. If it's a few months, even a couple weeks, then damn good on you.
As for trying out some of the material on here, take it with some common sense (in varying doses). If it's not working, stop! lol
Enjoy, and good job! :woo:
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
would it change anything to say that I've known her for.. two days?
we started dating the day we met lol
we started dating the day we met lol
Docs
Banned
Nope. Live and learn 
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
I remember when i got my first girlfriend. I was scared of her breaking my heart or me doing something clumsy that would cause he to her dump me right on the spot.
After being with her for awhile I became to concerned with her everyday activities (really jeolous, i.e. who she was talking to, where was she at, who she was with and other male competition) and by her being my first girlfriend I didn't have the knowledge to understand that what i was doing could have been a detrement to the relationship.
To make a long story short, don't become obsessive over this girl. There are plenty of women out there and by becoming to attached to one girl only limits numerous possiblities with other women.
After being with her for awhile I became to concerned with her everyday activities (really jeolous, i.e. who she was talking to, where was she at, who she was with and other male competition) and by her being my first girlfriend I didn't have the knowledge to understand that what i was doing could have been a detrement to the relationship.
To make a long story short, don't become obsessive over this girl. There are plenty of women out there and by becoming to attached to one girl only limits numerous possiblities with other women.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Just be normal. Keep being friends, just with the "benefits" added in. I've always felt that the perfect gf or wife, is your best friend with benefits.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Don't think about it too much. Over thinking is a relationship killer, believe me I know. Just do things that would seem nice to do with a girl and do things you'd think a girl might like. If you're sincere about it, even if it's not something she's really into she'll apreciate your efforts. If she's really comfortable she'll guide you towards things she does like. just hope you're good at taking hints.
just dont do what I do stand in the back just getting pulled a round. A girl might like to take ****rol but be perfect for her she will just walk all over you. Don't forget your self if you do she will just take you away no one else but her. Don't try this with her it dose not work. She will dump you right then and there.
I know Ive done it I felt horable. dont get nervous (ie studering not talking at all just standing) when talking to her it can make her fell like you dont want to talk to her. Also look at the her body languge ive gotten used to translating it but with some girls it like a foren languge. watch her when doing thing you don't usaly do. With a new gf putting your arm aroung her if she looks uncomfertable stop just watch her body languge (don't make it obvious just don't forget about it)
Hope it helps
and i know I don't spell very well.
I know Ive done it I felt horable. dont get nervous (ie studering not talking at all just standing) when talking to her it can make her fell like you dont want to talk to her. Also look at the her body languge ive gotten used to translating it but with some girls it like a foren languge. watch her when doing thing you don't usaly do. With a new gf putting your arm aroung her if she looks uncomfertable stop just watch her body languge (don't make it obvious just don't forget about it)
Hope it helps
and i know I don't spell very well.
TenOfSpades
Don Juan
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Nothing like advice 7 years later...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Jair213
Master Don Juan
might as well ask lol how did all of this end up?