BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
It's my first girlfriend ever, so I was wondering something. How the hell should I act with her? Just treat her like I would treat a girl I'm flirting with? or act different? I don't know :S
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Just got my first girlfriend, now I have a question
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Docs
Banned
I better say something before someone else starts going all SS.com on you.
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Act like you think you should. I'm completely being honest here. She's your first girlfriend, and unmistakenly, probably not your last. You have some guideance, as by not being a complete wussy to her, but at the same time, you don't need to apply heavy amounts of seduction to manipulate her the way you want.
Basically..let it roll, do what you feel is right, and make sure you gain experience from everything. If it happens that you last a few years, then damn good on you. If it's a few months, even a couple weeks, then damn good on you.
As for trying out some of the material on here, take it with some common sense (in varying doses). If it's not working, stop! lol
Enjoy, and good job! :woo:
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Act like you think you should. I'm completely being honest here. She's your first girlfriend, and unmistakenly, probably not your last. You have some guideance, as by not being a complete wussy to her, but at the same time, you don't need to apply heavy amounts of seduction to manipulate her the way you want.
Basically..let it roll, do what you feel is right, and make sure you gain experience from everything. If it happens that you last a few years, then damn good on you. If it's a few months, even a couple weeks, then damn good on you.
As for trying out some of the material on here, take it with some common sense (in varying doses). If it's not working, stop! lol
Enjoy, and good job! :woo:
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
would it change anything to say that I've known her for.. two days?
we started dating the day we met lol
we started dating the day we met lol
Docs
Banned
Nope. Live and learn 
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
I remember when i got my first girlfriend. I was scared of her breaking my heart or me doing something clumsy that would cause he to her dump me right on the spot.
After being with her for awhile I became to concerned with her everyday activities (really jeolous, i.e. who she was talking to, where was she at, who she was with and other male competition) and by her being my first girlfriend I didn't have the knowledge to understand that what i was doing could have been a detrement to the relationship.
To make a long story short, don't become obsessive over this girl. There are plenty of women out there and by becoming to attached to one girl only limits numerous possiblities with other women.
After being with her for awhile I became to concerned with her everyday activities (really jeolous, i.e. who she was talking to, where was she at, who she was with and other male competition) and by her being my first girlfriend I didn't have the knowledge to understand that what i was doing could have been a detrement to the relationship.
To make a long story short, don't become obsessive over this girl. There are plenty of women out there and by becoming to attached to one girl only limits numerous possiblities with other women.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Just be normal. Keep being friends, just with the "benefits" added in. I've always felt that the perfect gf or wife, is your best friend with benefits.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Don't think about it too much. Over thinking is a relationship killer, believe me I know. Just do things that would seem nice to do with a girl and do things you'd think a girl might like. If you're sincere about it, even if it's not something she's really into she'll apreciate your efforts. If she's really comfortable she'll guide you towards things she does like. just hope you're good at taking hints.
just dont do what I do stand in the back just getting pulled a round. A girl might like to take ****rol but be perfect for her she will just walk all over you. Don't forget your self if you do she will just take you away no one else but her. Don't try this with her it dose not work. She will dump you right then and there.
I know Ive done it I felt horable. dont get nervous (ie studering not talking at all just standing) when talking to her it can make her fell like you dont want to talk to her. Also look at the her body languge ive gotten used to translating it but with some girls it like a foren languge. watch her when doing thing you don't usaly do. With a new gf putting your arm aroung her if she looks uncomfertable stop just watch her body languge (don't make it obvious just don't forget about it)
Hope it helps
and i know I don't spell very well.
I know Ive done it I felt horable. dont get nervous (ie studering not talking at all just standing) when talking to her it can make her fell like you dont want to talk to her. Also look at the her body languge ive gotten used to translating it but with some girls it like a foren languge. watch her when doing thing you don't usaly do. With a new gf putting your arm aroung her if she looks uncomfertable stop just watch her body languge (don't make it obvious just don't forget about it)
Hope it helps
and i know I don't spell very well.
TenOfSpades
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Nothing like advice 7 years later...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Jair213
Master Don Juan
might as well ask lol how did all of this end up?