BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
It's my first girlfriend ever, so I was wondering something. How the hell should I act with her? Just treat her like I would treat a girl I'm flirting with? or act different? I don't know :S
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just got my first girlfriend, now I have a question
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Docs
Banned
I better say something before someone else starts going all SS.com on you.
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Act like you think you should. I'm completely being honest here. She's your first girlfriend, and unmistakenly, probably not your last. You have some guideance, as by not being a complete wussy to her, but at the same time, you don't need to apply heavy amounts of seduction to manipulate her the way you want.
Basically..let it roll, do what you feel is right, and make sure you gain experience from everything. If it happens that you last a few years, then damn good on you. If it's a few months, even a couple weeks, then damn good on you.
As for trying out some of the material on here, take it with some common sense (in varying doses). If it's not working, stop! lol
Enjoy, and good job! :woo:
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Act like you think you should. I'm completely being honest here. She's your first girlfriend, and unmistakenly, probably not your last. You have some guideance, as by not being a complete wussy to her, but at the same time, you don't need to apply heavy amounts of seduction to manipulate her the way you want.
Basically..let it roll, do what you feel is right, and make sure you gain experience from everything. If it happens that you last a few years, then damn good on you. If it's a few months, even a couple weeks, then damn good on you.
As for trying out some of the material on here, take it with some common sense (in varying doses). If it's not working, stop! lol
Enjoy, and good job! :woo:
BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
would it change anything to say that I've known her for.. two days?
we started dating the day we met lol
we started dating the day we met lol
Docs
Banned
Nope. Live and learn 
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
I remember when i got my first girlfriend. I was scared of her breaking my heart or me doing something clumsy that would cause he to her dump me right on the spot.
After being with her for awhile I became to concerned with her everyday activities (really jeolous, i.e. who she was talking to, where was she at, who she was with and other male competition) and by her being my first girlfriend I didn't have the knowledge to understand that what i was doing could have been a detrement to the relationship.
To make a long story short, don't become obsessive over this girl. There are plenty of women out there and by becoming to attached to one girl only limits numerous possiblities with other women.
After being with her for awhile I became to concerned with her everyday activities (really jeolous, i.e. who she was talking to, where was she at, who she was with and other male competition) and by her being my first girlfriend I didn't have the knowledge to understand that what i was doing could have been a detrement to the relationship.
To make a long story short, don't become obsessive over this girl. There are plenty of women out there and by becoming to attached to one girl only limits numerous possiblities with other women.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Just be normal. Keep being friends, just with the "benefits" added in. I've always felt that the perfect gf or wife, is your best friend with benefits.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Don't think about it too much. Over thinking is a relationship killer, believe me I know. Just do things that would seem nice to do with a girl and do things you'd think a girl might like. If you're sincere about it, even if it's not something she's really into she'll apreciate your efforts. If she's really comfortable she'll guide you towards things she does like. just hope you're good at taking hints.
just dont do what I do stand in the back just getting pulled a round. A girl might like to take ****rol but be perfect for her she will just walk all over you. Don't forget your self if you do she will just take you away no one else but her. Don't try this with her it dose not work. She will dump you right then and there.
I know Ive done it I felt horable. dont get nervous (ie studering not talking at all just standing) when talking to her it can make her fell like you dont want to talk to her. Also look at the her body languge ive gotten used to translating it but with some girls it like a foren languge. watch her when doing thing you don't usaly do. With a new gf putting your arm aroung her if she looks uncomfertable stop just watch her body languge (don't make it obvious just don't forget about it)
Hope it helps
and i know I don't spell very well.
I know Ive done it I felt horable. dont get nervous (ie studering not talking at all just standing) when talking to her it can make her fell like you dont want to talk to her. Also look at the her body languge ive gotten used to translating it but with some girls it like a foren languge. watch her when doing thing you don't usaly do. With a new gf putting your arm aroung her if she looks uncomfertable stop just watch her body languge (don't make it obvious just don't forget about it)
Hope it helps
and i know I don't spell very well.
TenOfSpades
Don Juan
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Nothing like advice 7 years later...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Jair213
Master Don Juan
might as well ask lol how did all of this end up?