"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just got girl number at work but she's hesistant.

sozzz

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Got this girl's number a few days ago at work. We talked through texting because I'm lazy to call to talk. Found out she just broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago. I said I'm sure she will find mr.right out there and she responded with she's not thinking about that stuff right now.

I asked her to hang out next Wednesday because that's the only day she has off to eat and hang out. She said she always spends time with her family on her day off. I said family will stay by her side forever but I wont be staying at the same job as her forever....

Then I followed with how she seems really sweet and the only way for me to get to know her is to hang out...

She waited 3 hours later to replied back with... I'm not really sure sozzz but I do appreciate it though..

Should I next this HB?

I have been busy working n doing other things for 2-3 yrs now. Currently with a girl right now and I can most def say having a girl makes me complacent.. It makes me lazy to not wanting to improve my game more.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't mean to sound offensive, but it doesn't sound like you joined this place in 2007.

A couple things
-don't dip your pen in the company ink
-Too lazy? laziness gets you one thing.. palmela handerson
-It is common sense if she just broke up with someone, the last thing she is thinking about is Mr. Right. If anything, she just wants to get laid and get her mind off him
-You basically begged her to hang out

Not sure what to tell you. I feel like I have learned more and I have only been here a month and a half...

Go read the DJ bible again
 

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The last thing a girl wants to think about after a failed relationship is relationships. You made her think about it, bad move.

I'd let this one be if I were you.
 

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"We broke up 2 weeks ago" = "We will have sex within one hour of him texting me again".
 

sozzz

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Haha funny responds. Its fine. Keep them coming.

You guys are right, i messed up big time. I wont talk to her about hanging out anymore. I'm 80-90% sure she's sexually attracted to me. We work in different department so its fine

I wont bring up hanging out n **** anymore. Should i just talk to her casually and wait say a month later to ask her out again?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sozzz

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Thinking about texting her soon and just take things slow getting to know her. After a month or so and if she's still single I'm going to try asking her out again.. ?????
 

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I'm 80-90% sure she's sexually attracted to me.
If she was sexually attracted to you she would have wanted to hang out.

Talk to more women.

Sure you can ask her out again but don't put so much weight behind it
 
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