"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just got girl number at work but she's hesistant.

sozzz

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Got this girl's number a few days ago at work. We talked through texting because I'm lazy to call to talk. Found out she just broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago. I said I'm sure she will find mr.right out there and she responded with she's not thinking about that stuff right now.

I asked her to hang out next Wednesday because that's the only day she has off to eat and hang out. She said she always spends time with her family on her day off. I said family will stay by her side forever but I wont be staying at the same job as her forever....

Then I followed with how she seems really sweet and the only way for me to get to know her is to hang out...

She waited 3 hours later to replied back with... I'm not really sure sozzz but I do appreciate it though..

Should I next this HB?

I have been busy working n doing other things for 2-3 yrs now. Currently with a girl right now and I can most def say having a girl makes me complacent.. It makes me lazy to not wanting to improve my game more.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't mean to sound offensive, but it doesn't sound like you joined this place in 2007.

A couple things
-don't dip your pen in the company ink
-Too lazy? laziness gets you one thing.. palmela handerson
-It is common sense if she just broke up with someone, the last thing she is thinking about is Mr. Right. If anything, she just wants to get laid and get her mind off him
-You basically begged her to hang out

Not sure what to tell you. I feel like I have learned more and I have only been here a month and a half...

Go read the DJ bible again
 

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The last thing a girl wants to think about after a failed relationship is relationships. You made her think about it, bad move.

I'd let this one be if I were you.
 

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"We broke up 2 weeks ago" = "We will have sex within one hour of him texting me again".
 

sozzz

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Haha funny responds. Its fine. Keep them coming.

You guys are right, i messed up big time. I wont talk to her about hanging out anymore. I'm 80-90% sure she's sexually attracted to me. We work in different department so its fine

I wont bring up hanging out n **** anymore. Should i just talk to her casually and wait say a month later to ask her out again?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sozzz

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Thinking about texting her soon and just take things slow getting to know her. After a month or so and if she's still single I'm going to try asking her out again.. ?????
 

Shift

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I'm 80-90% sure she's sexually attracted to me.
If she was sexually attracted to you she would have wanted to hang out.

Talk to more women.

Sure you can ask her out again but don't put so much weight behind it
 
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