"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Credos

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Nice, saved me the trouble :D ... FREEDOM!! :cheer:

I'm currently spinning 4 plates, but none of those intrest me at all though... Only sexually am I intrested in those... I have however set my eye on a HB9. And next month is the internship I alwayse wanted to do...

:D all I need now is a good cigar, a glass of scotch and a good chair in the sun, then life would truely be perfect
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How could you be spinning plates when, as you imply, you were in an exclusive relationship? Since you're talking about now you have freedom and all. Were you just cheating?
 

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We were togheter 1 year and 8 months, but the last 3 have been going down hill. She was just done with her exams today, so I was going to dump her, but she did before I could... I did plan this out actually, stoped sending messages and giving attention for about a month now. Well that saves her her ego, meaning less trouble later on/fights later on.

I love it when a plan comes togheter :)

@ Zekko: Well, like I posted here, I was going to dump here about a month ago, but I didn't want to ruin her exams, so I just went totally cold on her. (She's the sister of my best mate)
While I went cold on her I did start to spin plates... I can't help it, it was exams and I needed female attention. And I've alwayse been taught: Never pass up on a good thing!
 

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It appears as if you don't care at all, and that's is cool if you are really being honest and all. But something in my intuition tells me that you may not be being 100% true to yourself... And you may be hurt somehow. It's commom, it happens lots of times. I wanna help you out here by saying this... Are you masking your emotions? Are you running away from the pain of rejection? And avoiding to feel it just so that the girl doesn't "win"?

Probably not but I wanted to write that either way... I got no idea, but it could be happening! It happens so many times...

If not great for you. :D ;) edit:After reading your second post I'd guess you're cool with all this, nice then.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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who cares about his life..if he wants to hurt himself let him hurt himself. Are you his dad or what.
 

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So you're saying I shouldn't have write that? It surley didn't hurt to spend 5 minutes to write that, I'd appreciate it if someone did it for me that's for sure... But that depends on the person. I think we should all try to help eachother... Nothing wrong with that!!
 

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Credos said:
We were togheter 1 year and 8 months, but the last 3 have been going down hill. She was just done with her exams today, so I was going to dump her, but she did before I could... I did plan this out actually, stoped sending messages and giving attention for about a month now. Well that saves her her ego, meaning less trouble later on/fights later on.

I love it when a plan comes togheter :)

@ Zekko: Well, like I posted here, I was going to dump here about a month ago, but I didn't want to ruin her exams, so I just went totally cold on her. (She's the sister of my best mate)
While I went cold on her I did start to spin plates... I can't help it, it was exams and I needed female attention. And I've alwayse been taught: Never pass up on a good thing!
WOW MY EX DID SAME THING!

She said lets take a break before we actually broke it off... and this is because, she had her exams and didnt want drama!

NOW I GET IT !! LOL
 

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zekko said:
How could you be spinning plates when, as you imply, you were in an exclusive relationship? Since you're talking about now you have freedom and all. Were you just cheating?
I didn't see him mention anything about "exclusive"
 
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