No contact. Responding to any email will open up a can of worms. Any guilt you are feeling is a White Knight condition which society has thrust upon you. If the roles were reversed, you would be ridiculed. No contact, not even to refuse her plea.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Just got an email from ex wife...advice needed
- Thread starter Allan273
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Delete email. Move on with your life.
expos
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Allan273 said:
Look at the motive here. It's only when SHE needs something. To her, what she can get out of or back from you is the most important. This doesn't have anything to do with your well being.
Was your divorce amicable? Was she a good person or a b!tch?
I have no issue talking with exes who were good people, but for whatever reason WE didn't work out. I have my exes as FB friends and there are no hard feelings. But if the woman was a b!tch, then I never talk to them again.
When you divorce someone, especially if there are no kids involved, it means that the relationship is over and there is no reason for contact.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thanks to all for the advice.
She has also been in contact for the last year or so with my best friend's wife. She has been moaning to her about not being able to sell the house, knowing that this will filter back to me. "Oh poor me,I can't sell the house." "Does Al know anyone in the UK who might be interested in the house?" She's also gleaned information about where I'm working.
She mentioned the 6 k to her about three months ago, my friend told me to expect an email to that effect. I was worried about it for a few weeks after, but as time passed it went to the back of my mind. I think this tactic of hers stinks as she was never really close to my friend's wife. Yes, we socialized together, but it was just a case of me getting together with my mate. My mate says his missus is sick of the calls.
She also mentioned that she's seeing someone. "Does Al know I'm seeing someone?" As if I give a damn.This kind of echoes what honeyhitter mentioned.
Expos, the divorce was amicable but very fast. We called it a day in April 2011 and we were divorced by July. We didn't have kids so there was no need for contact.
She has also been in contact for the last year or so with my best friend's wife. She has been moaning to her about not being able to sell the house, knowing that this will filter back to me. "Oh poor me,I can't sell the house." "Does Al know anyone in the UK who might be interested in the house?" She's also gleaned information about where I'm working.
She mentioned the 6 k to her about three months ago, my friend told me to expect an email to that effect. I was worried about it for a few weeks after, but as time passed it went to the back of my mind. I think this tactic of hers stinks as she was never really close to my friend's wife. Yes, we socialized together, but it was just a case of me getting together with my mate. My mate says his missus is sick of the calls.
She also mentioned that she's seeing someone. "Does Al know I'm seeing someone?" As if I give a damn.This kind of echoes what honeyhitter mentioned.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I would send her a certified mail with a blank check on it that said LOL in big letters
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Notice the sense of entitlement in her text?Allan273 said:
Even more reason for you not to respond.
She might try and be "nicer" later on when she realises you are not going to deal with her.
You must ignore her then too.
VikingKing
Banned
Respond with "well, there is always the corner." then never talk to her again.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
This is what u should really do
U should call and tell her I will do it but I want a blow job first for old time sake
Then when she does it kick her out lol what is she go do tell everyone she blowed u and u did not pay her lol
Im twisted like that
U should call and tell her I will do it but I want a blow job first for old time sake
Then when she does it kick her out lol what is she go do tell everyone she blowed u and u did not pay her lol
Im twisted like that
abe0
Senior Don Juan
I do not get this thread....divorce is over....its final....good bye.....You have nothing to do with her ... period. Abe
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
VikingKing
Banned
backbreaker said:
:crackup:Yes, Jimmy, unbelievable. just checked my phone and there were 9 blocked calls and two messages. One was, "show some balls and answer the phone." I'm going to change my number tomorrow because I don't need this. Cheers for the advice.jimmy18 said:
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Cheers to you too. What really gets me when you posted that one simple text, I was like "wow!" Women have no trouble badmouthing men for whatever you can think of, including empowering one another about how they don't need one. But when sh*t hits the fan, oh boy do they need a REAL man to step up then...their words, not mine...lol.Allan273 said: