No contact. Responding to any email will open up a can of worms. Any guilt you are feeling is a White Knight condition which society has thrust upon you. If the roles were reversed, you would be ridiculed. No contact, not even to refuse her plea.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just got an email from ex wife...advice needed
- Thread starter Allan273
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Delete email. Move on with your life.
expos
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Allan273 said:
Look at the motive here. It's only when SHE needs something. To her, what she can get out of or back from you is the most important. This doesn't have anything to do with your well being.
Was your divorce amicable? Was she a good person or a b!tch?
I have no issue talking with exes who were good people, but for whatever reason WE didn't work out. I have my exes as FB friends and there are no hard feelings. But if the woman was a b!tch, then I never talk to them again.
When you divorce someone, especially if there are no kids involved, it means that the relationship is over and there is no reason for contact.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thanks to all for the advice.
She has also been in contact for the last year or so with my best friend's wife. She has been moaning to her about not being able to sell the house, knowing that this will filter back to me. "Oh poor me,I can't sell the house." "Does Al know anyone in the UK who might be interested in the house?" She's also gleaned information about where I'm working.
She mentioned the 6 k to her about three months ago, my friend told me to expect an email to that effect. I was worried about it for a few weeks after, but as time passed it went to the back of my mind. I think this tactic of hers stinks as she was never really close to my friend's wife. Yes, we socialized together, but it was just a case of me getting together with my mate. My mate says his missus is sick of the calls.
She also mentioned that she's seeing someone. "Does Al know I'm seeing someone?" As if I give a damn.This kind of echoes what honeyhitter mentioned.
Expos, the divorce was amicable but very fast. We called it a day in April 2011 and we were divorced by July. We didn't have kids so there was no need for contact.
She has also been in contact for the last year or so with my best friend's wife. She has been moaning to her about not being able to sell the house, knowing that this will filter back to me. "Oh poor me,I can't sell the house." "Does Al know anyone in the UK who might be interested in the house?" She's also gleaned information about where I'm working.
She mentioned the 6 k to her about three months ago, my friend told me to expect an email to that effect. I was worried about it for a few weeks after, but as time passed it went to the back of my mind. I think this tactic of hers stinks as she was never really close to my friend's wife. Yes, we socialized together, but it was just a case of me getting together with my mate. My mate says his missus is sick of the calls.
She also mentioned that she's seeing someone. "Does Al know I'm seeing someone?" As if I give a damn.This kind of echoes what honeyhitter mentioned.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I would send her a certified mail with a blank check on it that said LOL in big letters
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Notice the sense of entitlement in her text?Allan273 said:
Even more reason for you not to respond.
She might try and be "nicer" later on when she realises you are not going to deal with her.
You must ignore her then too.
VikingKing
Banned
Respond with "well, there is always the corner." then never talk to her again.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
This is what u should really do
U should call and tell her I will do it but I want a blow job first for old time sake
Then when she does it kick her out lol what is she go do tell everyone she blowed u and u did not pay her lol
Im twisted like that
U should call and tell her I will do it but I want a blow job first for old time sake
Then when she does it kick her out lol what is she go do tell everyone she blowed u and u did not pay her lol
Im twisted like that
abe0
Senior Don Juan
I do not get this thread....divorce is over....its final....good bye.....You have nothing to do with her ... period. Abe
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
VikingKing
Banned
backbreaker said:
:crackup:Yes, Jimmy, unbelievable. just checked my phone and there were 9 blocked calls and two messages. One was, "show some balls and answer the phone." I'm going to change my number tomorrow because I don't need this. Cheers for the advice.jimmy18 said:
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Cheers to you too. What really gets me when you posted that one simple text, I was like "wow!" Women have no trouble badmouthing men for whatever you can think of, including empowering one another about how they don't need one. But when sh*t hits the fan, oh boy do they need a REAL man to step up then...their words, not mine...lol.Allan273 said: