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Just finished reading "What do Women Want?: Adventures in the science of Female Desire"

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Maybe that's all true, and it's prudent to understand female sexuality. But what these books, blogs, etc. never take into consideration is there's a lot more to life than sex, and a lot of variables that go into it actually happening.

I could write a book on what goes on in the male sexual mind and it might be an "eye opener" and shock a lot of women, but it doesn't add up to much in real life.
That would be great Sam.

The title of the book could even be
'What goes on in the male sexual mind'

I wish this already existed so much, I'm going to google this title to see what else comes up in a search that's similar.
 

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Anyone read this book? "What do Women Want?: Adventures in the science of Female Desire" by Daniel Bergner.
It was pretty interesting. The book contained a lot of fluff but brought to light what I already suspected.

  • Women are the LESS monogamous sex.
  • Women are disconnected to their arousal.
  • Women get bored of their partners much sooner and desire another Man.
  • Women are extremely kinky and sexual but suppress due to social conditioning and shaming.
  • Women got turned on most when a Man lost control of himself with a deep lust for her.

An experiment was done on Women, where a device was placed inside their Vagina's to detect arousal and wetness. They showed Women various sexual short clips of Men with Women, Women with Women, Men with Men, Women masturbating alone, A Man walking naked, etc. Even Monkey's fvcking. These Women responded with saying they hardly found any of these arousing yet the device was picking up a lot of arousal and wetness. This concluded that what Women were saying was completely different than what actually aroused them.

A female Viagra was being developed so that Women in long term relationships and dead marriage bedrooms would maybe spark their arousal but failed, which meant Women could not feel excited from their current partners after being with them for a long period of time. Women got most aroused and excited when the Man was "new" or a "stranger". If I remember correctly, there was fear for creating a female arousal pill so effective that it would cause a society full of horny Women that would not be able to contain their sexual urges. Pretty much Women fvcking everywhere.

Ultimately it seems Women themselves dont fully understand their own sexual selves or at least hide it as to not be shamed. In overall words, Women love to fvck.


Here is a reviewer from "Goodreads" that I thought was pretty good.

"In university, I once overheard a couple of female friends talking about guys. One was trying to get the other to set her up with somebody. There was the usual question: ‘Well, what kind of guy are you looking for?’ My one friend hemmed and hawed for a minute, and then said, ‘Oh, who am I kidding? I just need to get fvcked.’

It was an eye-opening moment for me (granted, I was a pretty clueless 19-year old.) On one level, it was liberating to realize that women could be driven by the same imperious desires as men. On another level, it was kind of terrifying. And I think most men, if they’re honest, would admit to some ambivalence about female sexuality. We’re uneasily aware that there’s this powerful force out there that affects our lives in all sorts of ways, for good and ill, but we can’t even begin to understand it.

If there’s one consolation here, it’s that women themselves don’t understand it either. Or so says Daniel Bergner in this poppy but fascinating little book. In one of the more prurient experiments he summarizes, female subjects were shown a range of porn—gay, straight, animal, whatever—while hooked up to vaginal sensors that measured their state of arousal. When the women were asked which scenes turned them on, their answers wildly diverged from what the sensors were indicating (‘Nope, sorry, that bit with the monkeys didn’t do anything for me.’) Whereas, when men were shown the same clips, their reported reactions closely matched the sensor readings. So what’s going on here? Why do women apparently misconstrue what their own bodies are telling them? The sexologists don’t rightly know. It could be an effect of sociocultural repression. It could be some kind of psychosomatic disconnect between loins and brains. Or maybe women just don’t like having scientists mucking around in their lady bits.

My guess is that this book will make a lot of female readers feel a little better about themselves, a little less weird and ashamed. On the other hand, it’s going to freak out some male readers, especially those in long-term relationships. There’s emerging evidence that, contrary to popular belief, monogamy may be even harder on women than it is on men. Not that monogamy is necessarily wrong – just that its costs are very high and, for many women, simply intolerable. In that respect, What Do Women Want? is a surprisingly melancholy book. There are threads of sadness and desperation running through it. It’s a vivid reminder, in case you needed it, that life is tough, even for the luckiest among us.

Here’s my own two-bit theory, cobbled together out of Freud and failure: you’re never going to be satisfied – not for long, and probably only in retrospect. A Korean proverb goes: get married and you’ll regret it, stay single and you’ll regret it. Sounds about right. What Plato called ‘the pursuit of the whole’ takes place down here, in the realm of the incomplete, among the half-assed. Frustration is the norm.

As I see it, this isn’t an invitation to cynicism. It’s an invitation to acceptance. In the ordinary course of things, there’s no mingling of souls. There’s Chinese takeout and perfunctory sex. And that’s still pretty good, isn’t it?"
Ill get this after "the red queen"
Sounds interesting. That study sounded interesting. To bad they couldnt do it and monitor day to day for 30 days or so. Different environments
 

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So in other words, women are not logical and are at the mercy of their emotions. Shocker.

I take issue with who is the most monogamous. That is women, period. They seek that security. Men do not. If you do, then that is the first signal that you are weak, need to unplug from the matrix, and begin your journey to true masculinity.
Also what 2 other books say. A contrast would be interesting
 

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Ill get this after "the red queen"
Sounds interesting. That study sounded interesting. To bad they couldnt do it and monitor day to day for 30 days or so. Different environments
Yes, definitely on the 30 days but Women would probably feel uncomfortable with a Vaginal sensor all day lol. The interesting thing is that Women themselves don't fully understand their sexuality. What I also found interesting is that Women felt very sad/depressed/upset that they no longer could get aroused by their long term partners. They didnt understand why and they wanted to feel sexual arousal and attraction but just couldnt. That was the point in the development of a female Viagra but failed. So what does this say? They got bored sexually to their partners even if they still desired the LTR/Marriage.

I guess when Women in marriages and long term partners stop having sexual excitement, they begin looking for that excitement outside the relationship. Their arousal's spiked when the partner was new or was a stranger.
 
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I think Women do focus on non sexual aspects such as wanting exclusivity in terms of bonding, closeness, togetherness, coupling, etc. However this is apart from their sexual desires & wants.

This is why although Women may want a long term relationship/marriage, their sexual lust and desires take them off the rails so to speak. Wanting new adventurous sexual experiences but when this happens, they feel conflicted because they want to bond to their current partner but their pvssy arousal is not agreeing with them. Now I can see how this can be hard on Women. They get internally conflicted.

Men in long term relationships/marriage wouldn't feel comfortable knowing this because they feel at some point, their partners could possibly stray.
 

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I think Women do focus on non sexual aspects such as wanting exclusivity in terms of bonding, closeness, togetherness, coupling, etc. However this is apart from their sexual desires & wants.

This is why although Women may want a long term relationship/marriage, their sexual lust and desires take them off the rails so to speak. Wanting new adventurous sexual experiences but when this happens, they feel conflicted because they want to bond to their current partner but their pvssy arousal is not agreeing with them. Now I can see how this can be hard on Women. They get internally conflicted.

Men in long term relationships/marriage wouldn't feel comfortable knowing this because they feel at some point, their partners could possibly stray.
Some extremely dominant and physical and sexual studs have submitted themselves into marriage. The usual bullsh1t assumptions around here is he married because he's not as able to pull females, not good in bed or weaker than other singles. Women these days want to control relationships. And if you're a strong and dominant man she'll want to beat him and win. I've seen quite a few situations where the side dudes were much weaker than the husband less masculine essence. It's just when she starts that path of control and dominance she will refuse to respect her husband and intentionally do things to diminish his image piece by piece. One lady close to our family did it and in 20 years she haven't found even a man as 1/2 the man she did dirty.
 
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