"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just can's get over her...WHY ??!!!

yogy

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So here is my problem.
About 2-3 weeks ago I broke up with my LTR (5-6 month relationship).AND I STILL CAN'T GET OVER HER :trouble:
I have a very busy/full life:I love my job,go out with friends almost every night,have 2 girls (that I fVck) and tomorrow a date with the third one...so as you can see I am very busy.
And the fact is that that I don't really liked my LTR physicaly,but we had a lot things in common (music,ideas,life style...).
So what to do??? I had some nights when couldn't sleep thinking about her :eek:

PS: she wanted to remain "friends" :crazy: and I am not that kind of guy :).So now she sends me messages (1-2 times a week) with "how are you?","everything ok ?"....

if you want more details just ask :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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kabatura

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Break off all communication with her. Are you emotionally attracted to these girls,?
 

yogy

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Break off all communication with her
So just let her message me and don't answer?Ok,no problem :D
But the problem is that we go to the same clubs :confused:

Are you emotionally attracted to these girls,?
Not with actual girls and I don't want to be.
 

Obsidian

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it'll probably take a couple months before you're really over her. In the meantime, tho, definitely work on it by spinning plates and living your life. And yeah, don't text; that's lame.
 

kabatura

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It's going to make it tough seeing her at clubs. If she filled an emotional gap and no other girl is doing it, you are going to default to her whenever you think of a girl in an emotional way. You may get to where you arent bothered by it but unless someone else gives you what she gave you, she will be the representation of that feeling, and unfortunately, that representation is a painful one. I hope that makes sense
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DonJuan11

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yogy said:
So here is my problem.
About 2-3 weeks ago I broke up with my LTR (5-6 month relationship).AND I STILL CAN'T GET OVER HER :trouble:
I have a very busy/full life:I love my job,go out with friends almost every night,have 2 girls (that I fVck) and tomorrow a date with the third one...so as you can see I am very busy.
And the fact is that that I don't really liked my LTR physicaly,but we had a lot things in common (music,ideas,life style...).
So what to do??? I had some nights when couldn't sleep thinking about her :eek:

PS: she wanted to remain "friends" :crazy: and I am not that kind of guy :).So now she sends me messages (1-2 times a week) with "how are you?","everything ok ?"....

Man are we spolied.
 

JLW

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It took me 3-4 months to get over my 10 month LTR

And its not like I hadn't hooked up with other girls etc.

Sometimes its just rough.
 

SomeKindaHate

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I've been in this situation twice before. It's definitely a horrible feeling and the first few days is the worst. I thought I was never going to get over my ex, thought it would be years. But after a few days, plus a weekend out with friends, those feelings drastically went away.

Of course you'll get over it. It's great to stay busy, but there is that 10-20 minutes where you're alone thinking of your ex. Just try to block it out and think of all the of single girls out there who are wife material.
 

yogy

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Thanks guys for support.
I hope I'll get over it fast.I don't like this feeling,specially when everything else is going so well.
 
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