"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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just a bad experience?

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I suppose I have a bit of performance anxiety from a bad experience.
Long story short it involved this strange 39 year old woman I met on the net and didn't get it up due to my nervousness and me being weirded out by the whole situation (she showed me a fairy tale porn book, told me I look like her brother, asked me if I knew what 'stop' meant while we were on her bed, told me she was on her period).
I also told her I was a virgin for some stupid reason which added to her dominance over me. Kinda felt like she was doing me a favour or something (she actaually said if she ever met a virgin she would "help them out").
She was rubbing my c0ck furiously trying to get me hard and the sensation was just too different to what I've been used to all these years, it just wasn't doing anything for me. She still has all her clothes on at this point and I'm totally naked for some reason lmao.
I think she wanted me to tear her clothes off etc. but I was an ultimate afc champion and that never entered my mind.

Basically I didn't get it up and it totally turned her off me at that point so I just left. While I was getting ready to leave she told me she had been abused as a child and that's why she's a sex addict which I suppose explains some of the odd things I picked up.

This has left me wondering what will I do if that happens next time and I'm a little worried.

I'm going to make sure I'm in a much more dominant frame next time so this doesn't happen again.

So, say you're getting hot and heavy with a woman. Would it be considered odd to start rubbing your d1ck before you actually start going at it to help in getting hard?
Would this weird her out?
Or am I just worrying about nothing and this was simply due to the strange situation I was in?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If she's a sex addict, I doubt it would have been bad to jerk yourself hard. But I wouldn't recommend it for future encounters. Get the girl to suck it, it will relax you and you'll get hard.

Also, don't ever use that "I'm a virgin" line again.
 

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Yea I don't plan on letting that slip again, don't worry.

Thing is she didn't really give me much chance to get hard. After 20 seconds or so of rubbing my c0ck she went ultra weird on me and looked like I'd just dropped a turd or something.

Is it really cool to get a girl to suck your limp d1ck? Wouldn't she expect you to be hard pretty much straight away?

This chick really screwed with my head I'm sure you can tell...
 
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Neon Owl said:
Yea I don't plan on letting that slip again, don't worry.

Thing is she didn't really give me much chance to get hard. After 20 seconds or so of rubbing my c0ck she went ultra weird on me and looked like I'd just dropped a turd or something.

Is it really cool to get a girl to suck your limp d1ck? Wouldn't she expect you to be hard pretty much straight away?

This chick really screwed with my head I'm sure you can tell...
You were totally limp or a little hard but not all the way up? Either way, if she was a sex addict, she would have sucked that thing hard. Most girls would too.
 

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I was totally limp and only just starting to get hard when she stopped and got all weird.

When you say "she would've sucked that thing hard" you mean even if it was soft or only hard?

She seemed to be freaked out that I wasn't getting hard quickly. I told her it'd help if she took her clothes off but she wasn't having it...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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