"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey everyone, just a quick question.

I have an opportunity to go to a couple bars with a couple good friends of mine who are a lot better with social stuff than I am. So I ask has anyone who was still fairly new to the DJ game ever tried just putting their fears aside and jumping right into the social scene by, say, going to a club, or a bar with friends looking to meet women? If so, is it a good way to learn, or is it just setting yourself up for failure?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you want to get better at social situations you need to isolate yourself in a cave and meditate. No friends or women just you and some candles. So i think your answer is no don't go to bars with friends to meet girls >.>
 
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Pathgen said:
If you want to get better at social situations you need to isolate yourself in a cave and meditate. No friends or women just you and some candles. So i think your answer is no don't go to bars with friends to meet girls >.>
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Heh. Point taken. Thanks!
 
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Drink.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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oakraiderz2 said:
Drink.
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It takes about half a beer to get me feeling tipsy because the alcohol reacts with a medication I take. Not to mention that I sorta become a douchebag when I'm drunk... but we'll see.
 
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Jumping in the deep end is the way to go. Unless you have heart problems and the water is freezing cold. Then your heart might stop and you could die. The lesson is: Go to a club with your friends and observe them. The best way to learn is to observe people who are good at it. However the women there aren't usually relationship material if that's what you're looking for. Oh and exercise for a healthy heart.
 
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