"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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JPlaya

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Well I'm very new to this, and I'm never going to get over this girl by sitting on my ass at home all day, so why find a new girl to crush on. I'm not going to be looking for a relationship now because I'm about to move on to college, so I might as well get my feet wet beforehand.

Well my appearance isn't bad I guess. I'm 6ft 1, athletic, abs, and black. I think my blackness is holding me back, but that attitude will probably change. I hope! People say I'm a 7/10, but I've never done anything with a girl. I'm a shy guy and I am kind of picky. I don't get to go out as much but when I do it's with friends. My main problem is I don't know what to say at all when I cold approach. I should be going out tomorrow, so I'll post my experiences tomorrow.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Update

I didn't get to go anywhere girls were at. I was hoping I would find some luck at the pool, but total sausage fest.
 

LoneWolf

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skin color is NOT a problem. i'm dark myself and when i was young i didn't even need to approach girls. for real, i just use to go to parties and girls would start talking to me.. and most of those girls were WHITE.
 

JPlaya

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Yeah I'm not very social. That could be my major problem. I'm going to have to change myself before college starts.
 

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Tomorrow I might actually be able to go out and stuff. I might go out to eat and to the mall with my friends. I'm going to study every guide tonight and use it tomorrow.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Mike32ct

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JPlaya said:
People say I'm a 7/10, but I've never done anything with a girl. I'm a shy guy and I am kind of picky. I don't get to go out as much but when I do it's with friends.
Don't be TOO picky, especially at first. I'm not suggesting that you hook up with ugly, nasty girls, but don't expect your first to be a 9 or 10. If she's cute and doable, it's game on. There's nothing wrong with fooling around with a 7. It's about getting some experience.
 

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I know what you're talking about. My preference is generally a 5 to about an 8
 

I'm in the Mood

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Good luck with the journal! You can actually use your blackness to your advantage, because there are white girls who are attracted to black guys just because they're different. Go figure!
 

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Mike32ct said:
Don't be TOO picky, especially at first. I'm not suggesting that you hook up with ugly, nasty girls, but don't expect your first to be a 9 or 10. If she's cute and doable, it's game on. There's nothing wrong with fooling around with a 7. It's about getting some experience.
You could also add in MILF's, especially if he's a younger guy. Sure, they're more than likely married or in relationships and may be biased against your age. But if you get the right one, she could be a f*ck buddy. That, and any cold approach is great experience, no matter what happens. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
 
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