"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JPlaya

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Well I'm very new to this, and I'm never going to get over this girl by sitting on my ass at home all day, so why find a new girl to crush on. I'm not going to be looking for a relationship now because I'm about to move on to college, so I might as well get my feet wet beforehand.

Well my appearance isn't bad I guess. I'm 6ft 1, athletic, abs, and black. I think my blackness is holding me back, but that attitude will probably change. I hope! People say I'm a 7/10, but I've never done anything with a girl. I'm a shy guy and I am kind of picky. I don't get to go out as much but when I do it's with friends. My main problem is I don't know what to say at all when I cold approach. I should be going out tomorrow, so I'll post my experiences tomorrow.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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JPlaya

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Update

I didn't get to go anywhere girls were at. I was hoping I would find some luck at the pool, but total sausage fest.
 

LoneWolf

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skin color is NOT a problem. i'm dark myself and when i was young i didn't even need to approach girls. for real, i just use to go to parties and girls would start talking to me.. and most of those girls were WHITE.
 

JPlaya

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Yeah I'm not very social. That could be my major problem. I'm going to have to change myself before college starts.
 

JPlaya

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Tomorrow I might actually be able to go out and stuff. I might go out to eat and to the mall with my friends. I'm going to study every guide tonight and use it tomorrow.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mike32ct

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JPlaya said:
People say I'm a 7/10, but I've never done anything with a girl. I'm a shy guy and I am kind of picky. I don't get to go out as much but when I do it's with friends.
Don't be TOO picky, especially at first. I'm not suggesting that you hook up with ugly, nasty girls, but don't expect your first to be a 9 or 10. If she's cute and doable, it's game on. There's nothing wrong with fooling around with a 7. It's about getting some experience.
 

JPlaya

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I know what you're talking about. My preference is generally a 5 to about an 8
 

I'm in the Mood

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Good luck with the journal! You can actually use your blackness to your advantage, because there are white girls who are attracted to black guys just because they're different. Go figure!
 

Deicide

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Mike32ct said:
Don't be TOO picky, especially at first. I'm not suggesting that you hook up with ugly, nasty girls, but don't expect your first to be a 9 or 10. If she's cute and doable, it's game on. There's nothing wrong with fooling around with a 7. It's about getting some experience.
You could also add in MILF's, especially if he's a younger guy. Sure, they're more than likely married or in relationships and may be biased against your age. But if you get the right one, she could be a f*ck buddy. That, and any cold approach is great experience, no matter what happens. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
 
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