That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
oh come on...no way am I condoning him shooting her or even hitting her, but 3 months pregnant and out partying, he thinks she might be cheating, 'friends' arent going to say she was taking this singers guy load down her neck are they? diagnosing him with PS because of this incident???Bible_Belt said:The story this morning is that the girlfriend went to a 'Trey Songz' concert Friday night and then to the afterparty with her friends. He didn't want her to go out, which is what they were fighting over. Her friends are saying that Belcher was obsessed with the idea that she must be cheating on him with the Trey Songz guy. It sounds a little like paranoid schizophrenia to me, and an increased risk of schizophrenia has been linked to head trauma.
Agreed. She may have been a horrible person, I don't know. Didn't know her personally. But being a bad person generally doesn't merit the death penalty.backbreaker said:I wont' comment on this until they autopsy comes back. though I agree with zekko.. i'm generally anti kill GF
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
http://deadspin.com/5964917/friend-...on-domestic-tensions-played-role-in-shootingsbetheman said:oh come on...no way am I condoning him shooting her or even hitting her, but 3 months pregnant and out partying, he thinks she might be cheating, 'friends' arent going to say she was taking this singers guy load down her neck are they? diagnosing him with PS because of this incident???
he obviously had bit wrong with his head to even contemplate shooting her but in the coming weeks/months, the truth will filter out about the background
I wonder if he was on booze and pills when he shot her 9 times. Booze and pills can make you do some crazy things. What kind of pills were they?Findog said:http://deadspin.com/5964917/friend-...on-domestic-tensions-played-role-in-shootings
Dude was drinking heavily every night, abusing pills, had a head injury. I'd want to get my three-month old baby out of there too. She may have been a typical immature 22 year old, but I don't blame her for leaving him, and she didn't deserve to die.
She was happy enough to get pregnant to him, pills, head injury, booze or not...I smell a cunning plan!!!Findog said:http://deadspin.com/5964917/friend-...on-domestic-tensions-played-role-in-shootings
Dude was drinking heavily every night, abusing pills, had a head injury. I'd want to get my three-month old baby out of there too. She may have been a typical immature 22 year old, but I don't blame her for leaving him, and she didn't deserve to die.
The b!tch used him and then cheated on him, and it drove him crazy? Maybe she is BPD. Most likely this is it.betheman said:She was happy enough to get pregnant to him, pills, head injury, booze or not...I smell a cunning plan!!!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.