"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Jovan Belcher suicide
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bible_Belt
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The Chiefs are scared to say anything nice about a man who murdered a woman, because then they draw the wrath of the feminist protestors, plus the NFL is trying so hard to recruit female fans (October pink). That sucks for all of the players who really are grieving over his death; it's as though the NFL is not allowed to acknowledge their grief.
The murdered girlfriend had a 3-month old baby. She would have been a prime candidate for post-partum depression, which may have been why they were fighting. He also had at least one head injury on record and then played the next week. That was a few years ago, though. Poor impulse control is a major side effect of the NFL head trauma disease; that's why so many ex-players commit suicide. In this case, the impulse he couldn't control was the one to shoot his girlfriend.
The murdered girlfriend had a 3-month old baby. She would have been a prime candidate for post-partum depression, which may have been why they were fighting. He also had at least one head injury on record and then played the next week. That was a few years ago, though. Poor impulse control is a major side effect of the NFL head trauma disease; that's why so many ex-players commit suicide. In this case, the impulse he couldn't control was the one to shoot his girlfriend.
Big surprise....none of the mainstream media want to discuss the fact that the girl friend may have provoked jovan to anger..
I guess its important to note that to mainstream perceptions women are angelic creatures who never provoke men :crackup: ...oh right 'alpha' men can never be moved by outside forces
apparently the girl friend threatened to take the child away multiple times and stayed out late frequently...frankly 99% of NFL/NBA wives/gfs are trash cans on legs
I guess its important to note that to mainstream perceptions women are angelic creatures who never provoke men :crackup: ...oh right 'alpha' men can never be moved by outside forces
apparently the girl friend threatened to take the child away multiple times and stayed out late frequently...frankly 99% of NFL/NBA wives/gfs are trash cans on legs
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Whenever I read about something like this my first thought is, what was this guy's mental schema with regards to how he dealt with women in his life? Just like Junior Seau another girl-world casualty:
http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/spor...eau-suicide-last-days-sleep-issues/55316506/1
And before you throw the traumatic football brain injury line at me:
http://articles.latimes.com/2012/aug/21/local/la-me-0821-junior-seau-20120821
Or Steve McNair
http://www.bloomberg.com/apps/news?pid=newsarchive&sid=ayWaNQToDqcs
http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/spor...eau-suicide-last-days-sleep-issues/55316506/1
And before you throw the traumatic football brain injury line at me:
http://articles.latimes.com/2012/aug/21/local/la-me-0821-junior-seau-20120821
Or Steve McNair
http://www.bloomberg.com/apps/news?pid=newsarchive&sid=ayWaNQToDqcs
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I wont' comment on this until they autopsy comes back. though I agree with zekko.. i'm generally anti kill GF
Bible_Belt
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The story this morning is that the girlfriend went to a 'Trey Songz' concert Friday night and then to the afterparty with her friends. He didn't want her to go out, which is what they were fighting over. Her friends are saying that Belcher was obsessed with the idea that she must be cheating on him with the Trey Songz guy. It sounds a little like paranoid schizophrenia to me, and an increased risk of schizophrenia has been linked to head trauma.
oh come on...no way am I condoning him shooting her or even hitting her, but 3 months pregnant and out partying, he thinks she might be cheating, 'friends' arent going to say she was taking this singers guy load down her neck are they? diagnosing him with PS because of this incident???Bible_Belt said:
he obviously had bit wrong with his head to even contemplate shooting her but in the coming weeks/months, the truth will filter out about the background
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CNN is blaming MANLINESS for the murder / suicide.
http://www.breitbart.com/Big-Journalism/2012/12/03/CNN-culture-of-manliness-Belcher
http://www.breitbart.com/Big-Journalism/2012/12/03/CNN-culture-of-manliness-Belcher
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
http://deadspin.com/5964917/friend-...on-domestic-tensions-played-role-in-shootingsbetheman said:
Dude was drinking heavily every night, abusing pills, had a head injury. I'd want to get my three-month old baby out of there too. She may have been a typical immature 22 year old, but I don't blame her for leaving him, and she didn't deserve to die.
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I wonder if he was on booze and pills when he shot her 9 times. Booze and pills can make you do some crazy things. What kind of pills were they?Findog said:
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The b!tch used him and then cheated on him, and it drove him crazy? Maybe she is BPD. Most likely this is it.betheman said:
Bible_Belt
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Belcher was involved in at least two instances of fighting with a woman while at the University of Maine to the extent that the campus police came.
http://www.usatoday.com/story/sport...e-report-campus-punch-window-cut-arm/1744281/
I also thought the quote from this reuters article to be interesting. If Belcher had always been on steroids, that would explain his amazing athletic prowess and the way he worked his way up to being an NFL starter, although I don't know how easy it is to beat NFL drug testing.
http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/12/04/us-nfl-chiefs-violence-idUSBRE8B305U20121204
Don Hooton, who founded the Taylor Hooton Foundation to promote steroids education in 2004, seven months after his son, Taylor, committed suicide following his use of anabolic steroids, suspects doping.
"Every time I hear a story like this, my mind runs immediately to anabolic steroids," Hooton said. "Not necessarily to the exclusion of anything else, but because anabolic steroids can affect the mind in these crazy ways.
"I hope when they do the autopsy on this young man, that they look for these substances because it's possible that what we saw was 'Roid Rage'"
http://www.usatoday.com/story/sport...e-report-campus-punch-window-cut-arm/1744281/
I also thought the quote from this reuters article to be interesting. If Belcher had always been on steroids, that would explain his amazing athletic prowess and the way he worked his way up to being an NFL starter, although I don't know how easy it is to beat NFL drug testing.
http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/12/04/us-nfl-chiefs-violence-idUSBRE8B305U20121204
Don Hooton, who founded the Taylor Hooton Foundation to promote steroids education in 2004, seven months after his son, Taylor, committed suicide following his use of anabolic steroids, suspects doping.
"Every time I hear a story like this, my mind runs immediately to anabolic steroids," Hooton said. "Not necessarily to the exclusion of anything else, but because anabolic steroids can affect the mind in these crazy ways.
"I hope when they do the autopsy on this young man, that they look for these substances because it's possible that what we saw was 'Roid Rage'"
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
First thing I thought was "Junior Seau."
While I'm generally in the kill-the-girlfriend camp, in this case, it would have been better for the man if he just left her.
I couldn't care less what would be better for the slvt-wh0re. And yes, the penalty for a woman cheating should be death. How would that be unfair to men? Men always feel like killing themselves when their women cheat on them. Did you know that adultery is a felony in the Philippines that is frequently punished by prison time and loss of rights to home and children?
(There is no such thing as being "fair" to women. All men are always trying to fvck all women, and all women are in constant competition with each other. So don't kid yourself. No one is trying to "help" a woman.)
While I'm generally in the kill-the-girlfriend camp, in this case, it would have been better for the man if he just left her.
I couldn't care less what would be better for the slvt-wh0re. And yes, the penalty for a woman cheating should be death. How would that be unfair to men? Men always feel like killing themselves when their women cheat on them. Did you know that adultery is a felony in the Philippines that is frequently punished by prison time and loss of rights to home and children?
(There is no such thing as being "fair" to women. All men are always trying to fvck all women, and all women are in constant competition with each other. So don't kid yourself. No one is trying to "help" a woman.)
Bible_Belt
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http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/20...12/04/jovan-belcher/index.html?sct=nfl_t12_a0
According to a law enforcement official close to the investigation -- and contrary to published reports -- Belcher spent Friday night "partying" with another woman at the Power and Light District, a bar area in downtown K.C. He returned home between 6:30 and 7 a.m., at which point he and Perkins argued.
According to a law enforcement official close to the investigation -- and contrary to published reports -- Belcher spent Friday night "partying" with another woman at the Power and Light District, a bar area in downtown K.C. He returned home between 6:30 and 7 a.m., at which point he and Perkins argued.