Job loss, self esteem and women

[bigneil]

Have you ever lost your job and then indirectly lost your woman because of the self esteem loss? Your confidence is hurt and you become needy and clingy and they of course run, which hurts your confidence even more and makes you even more needy and clingy. It's a pretty sad series of events. Then you can't find other women either, and get Oneitis.

It seems the only solution is to find a new job before even attempting to date again.

 

[Konada]

It seems like you already know what to work on. Get your confidence up, settle everything in your life before thinking about women. I can't remember who said it but it goes along the lines of this 'Women are simply just an addition into your already awesome life.'

Best of luck to picking yourself up.

Cheers,
Konada

 

[dereklovesugly]

Just gotta pick yourself up and try again. It's rough but you'll get thru it. I'm at the opposite side of the spectrum of the job part, I'm working 65+ hours a week an lost a girl from it.

 

[Solomon]

Have you ever lost your job and then indirectly lost your woman because of the self esteem loss? Your confidence is hurt and you become needy and clingy and they of course run, which hurts your confidence even more and makes you even more needy and clingy. It's a pretty sad series of events. Then you can't find other women either, and get Oneitis.

It seems the only solution is to find a new job before even attempting to date again.

I lost my job and had my car die on me all within 3 month period. My confidence and self-esteem went to shyt and on top of that I put on 15-20 pounds. I was getting dissed left and right by chicks even by chicks who were average or less!

It's not a fun feeling, I got a new job now, and a new car, however my confidence is far from where it use to be, I'm hitting the gym right now and I wanna drop 50

right now women and "game" are taking a backseat to the "improvement" of self

 

[LoneWolf]

i don't even have a job right now. i don't even have a car either! but i'm probably starting work this month. i still don't have troubles with women. obviously not having a job isn't very appealing to most women, heh. i bullsh1t a bit just to make it sound like i'm not some bum and all. so it doesn't really affect getting women to be honest. not for me anyway. relationship maybe, depending on the girl.

 

[bigneil]

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[LoneWolf]

woah.... that's all i gotta say. woah.