"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Job loss, self esteem and women

bigneil

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Have you ever lost your job and then indirectly lost your woman because of the self esteem loss? Your confidence is hurt and you become needy and clingy and they of course run, which hurts your confidence even more and makes you even more needy and clingy. It's a pretty sad series of events. Then you can't find other women either, and get Oneitis.

It seems the only solution is to find a new job before even attempting to date again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Konada

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It seems like you already know what to work on. Get your confidence up, settle everything in your life before thinking about women. I can't remember who said it but it goes along the lines of this 'Women are simply just an addition into your already awesome life.'

Best of luck to picking yourself up.

Cheers,
Konada
 
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Just gotta pick yourself up and try again. It's rough but you'll get thru it. I'm at the opposite side of the spectrum of the job part, I'm working 65+ hours a week an lost a girl from it.
 
Solomon

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bigneil said:
Have you ever lost your job and then indirectly lost your woman because of the self esteem loss? Your confidence is hurt and you become needy and clingy and they of course run, which hurts your confidence even more and makes you even more needy and clingy. It's a pretty sad series of events. Then you can't find other women either, and get Oneitis.

It seems the only solution is to find a new job before even attempting to date again.
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I lost my job and had my car die on me all within 3 month period. My confidence and self-esteem went to shyt and on top of that I put on 15-20 pounds. I was getting dissed left and right by chicks even by chicks who were average or less!

It's not a fun feeling, I got a new job now, and a new car, however my confidence is far from where it use to be, I'm hitting the gym right now and I wanna drop 50

right now women and "game" are taking a backseat to the "improvement" of self
 
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i don't even have a job right now. i don't even have a car either! but i'm probably starting work this month. i still don't have troubles with women. obviously not having a job isn't very appealing to most women, heh. i bullsh1t a bit just to make it sound like i'm not some bum and all. so it doesn't really affect getting women to be honest. not for me anyway. relationship maybe, depending on the girl.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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