"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Job loss, self esteem and women

bigneil

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Have you ever lost your job and then indirectly lost your woman because of the self esteem loss? Your confidence is hurt and you become needy and clingy and they of course run, which hurts your confidence even more and makes you even more needy and clingy. It's a pretty sad series of events. Then you can't find other women either, and get Oneitis.

It seems the only solution is to find a new job before even attempting to date again.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Konada

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It seems like you already know what to work on. Get your confidence up, settle everything in your life before thinking about women. I can't remember who said it but it goes along the lines of this 'Women are simply just an addition into your already awesome life.'

Best of luck to picking yourself up.

Cheers,
Konada
 

dereklovesugly

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Just gotta pick yourself up and try again. It's rough but you'll get thru it. I'm at the opposite side of the spectrum of the job part, I'm working 65+ hours a week an lost a girl from it.
 

Solomon

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bigneil said:
Have you ever lost your job and then indirectly lost your woman because of the self esteem loss? Your confidence is hurt and you become needy and clingy and they of course run, which hurts your confidence even more and makes you even more needy and clingy. It's a pretty sad series of events. Then you can't find other women either, and get Oneitis.

It seems the only solution is to find a new job before even attempting to date again.

I lost my job and had my car die on me all within 3 month period. My confidence and self-esteem went to shyt and on top of that I put on 15-20 pounds. I was getting dissed left and right by chicks even by chicks who were average or less!

It's not a fun feeling, I got a new job now, and a new car, however my confidence is far from where it use to be, I'm hitting the gym right now and I wanna drop 50

right now women and "game" are taking a backseat to the "improvement" of self
 

LoneWolf

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i don't even have a job right now. i don't even have a car either! but i'm probably starting work this month. i still don't have troubles with women. obviously not having a job isn't very appealing to most women, heh. i bullsh1t a bit just to make it sound like i'm not some bum and all. so it doesn't really affect getting women to be honest. not for me anyway. relationship maybe, depending on the girl.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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