Jesus... My ex BPD is getting married..

[Johnny Alias]

So... Wow.

Just got the news my ex BPD gf of 4 years is getting married...

I won't lie I've been very broken up about her. She moved in with him 6 months ago right after we broke up. The first 3 were agony with my best friend also dying.

So they've been together 6 months... Still the honeymoon phase really especially in terms of an alcoholic junkie borderline...

I'm 38. She's 43 with rapidly fading looks. Used to be a knockout but now she's got the white wine belly, ever expanding ass, grayig hair, wrinkles.

I didn't want this... She's a train wreck. Pill popper, mean drunk, no job, debt, rage... After 4 years and 3 recycles I was done.

And now she's getting married... In the time we've been apart steroid boys been in a bar fight and arrested, she's raged at many of her oldest friends and they're leaving her, she's been hospitalized twice due to drugs/alcohol...

Sounds like a winner right???

In our last face to face she bragged about how much money he has... And before that we had a fight with her saying "I was raised traditionally. I think a man should pay for everything!" This after I insist she do SOMETHING with her day besides sleep.

I know in a few years had we gotten married she and I would get divorced and id lose everything... Especially my time... Which isn't good. I do want a kid.
The stupid thought of white picket fences clouded my thinking and I withstood loads of abuse...

I understand that BPD, alcoholism, and conflict oriented people destroy relationships all on their own... And that this will end. I shouldn't care but I do. I want it to fail. I want her to abuse the fvck out of him like she did me.

Jesus what a morning... Good thing I banged last night. Woof.

Thanks for listening...

 

[TheException]

Someone's still upset that they aren't with their ex.

Who cares....get over it pal. Life goes on. If she is as you describe...you shouldnt give two flying fvcks about her.

 

[sylvester the cat]

as soon as i told my bpd i was engaged to someone else...BOOM!...she was up the duff, married and living on the other side of the world.

that still didn't stop her from contacting me by email though. lol.

 

[skinnyguy]

She will ruin the relationship by herself. Just sit back and laugh while this guy gets cleaned out and you're still standing.

 

[Johnny Alias]

She will ruin the relationship by herself. Just sit back and laugh while this guy gets cleaned out and you're still standing.

THAT is what I needed to hear... :box:

 

[VikingKing]

Why the fvck do you know about this, or care? Sucks for her fiance. Jesus man.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Sit back and enjoy the train wreck. Don't let these guys kid you into thinkin you shouldn't feel some kinda way about it - bpd slootbag or not - she had an impact on ya and you'll get over it your own way. Just be glad you got out when you did.

 

[asa_don]

Funny how all these men are obsessed over their "BPD ex" knowing all their details and every move but still have no clue on how to really game women.

 

[Jaylan]

Why the fvck do you know about this, or care? Sucks for her fiance. Jesus man.

This.

Dont give a fvk OP. Thats what you need to do. Move on and heal. Dont look for news on her, and tell others you dont wanna know when shes brought up.

 

[LeonSK]

shouldn't be surprised... shouldn't care... easy said than done but u gotta show a indifference attitude.

 

[Married Buried]

Who cares if your ex BPD is getting married? She will be divorced in 6 months. My ex BPD was already divorced, after me she got married, had a kid, dumped the guy, got divorced again, collects child support, and has made 3 different guys their stepfather. She now STILL hops on a differnt c/ck every week and she is 35, she is still searching for that elusive rich alpha that will take her away from all her problems. They are completely delusional. Some things never change, she will be waiting for that guy until she is 92.

I know all this all because she advertizes her pathetic life on facebook and it's entertaining to see how the old trash is doing. I truly don't give a damn because I have a real woman now not a wh0re.

 

[asa_don]

My ex BPD was already divorced, after me she got married, had a kid, dumped the guy, got divorced again, collects child support, and has made 3 different guys their stepfather. She now STILL hops on a differnt c/ck every week and she is 35, she is still searching for that elusive rich alpha that will take her away from all her problems. They are completely delusional. Some things never change, she will be waiting for that guy until she is 92.

I truly don't give a damn because I have a real woman now not a wh0re.

If you truly don't give a damn, then why are you still keeping tabs on what she is doing? Sounds to me like you can't let go of her. Secretly you probably still want her back.

Give me a break dude. The only reason I look is because it's entertainment. Like watching a show on TV. I get down on my knees every day thanking god I got rid of that woman. I met a hot young Latina shortly after this and I am in an LTR. I love watching the wreckage of this BPD. I truly don't give a damn and laugh. That's the level I am on right now.

Call it whatever you want, but you still have an obsession with her following every detail and move she makes. Would you watch bad TV show? Why would you get entertainment out of watching an ex? Checking up on her is a sign that you are still not over her. Not giving damn means she is out of your life for good. You still are making her part of your life by keeping tabs.

 

[Married Buried]

If you truly don't give a damn, then why are you still keeping tabs on what she is doing? Sounds to me like you can't let go of her. Secretly you probably still want her back.

Give me a break dude. The only reason I look is because it's entertainment. Like watching a show on TV. I get down on my knees every day thanking god I got rid of that woman. I met a hot young Latina shortly after this and I am in an LTR. I love watching the wreckage of this BPD. I truly don't give a damn and laugh. That's the level I am on right now.

 

[El Payaso]

You shouldn't care....

 

[Married Buried]

You shouldn't care....

Then you shouldn't care about that show you watch on TV.

 

[Gray The Prince]

Then you shouldn't care about that show you watch on TV.

That doesn't make a lick of sense.

 

[mikey2012]

You shouldn't care....

It's true you shouldn't care. Guess in your subconscious you still not over her .

 

[sylvester the cat]

wow. a guy makes an observation about his bpd ex and suddenly it's like the stepford wives on this thread with guys repeating the 'you shouldnt care' mantra like programmed robots.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VG7JAM6DQnM

 

[Cremasta]

Corny, but this was the first thing I thought of...

http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view6/1922026/neo-bullet-dodge-o.gif

 

[Johnny Alias]

Haha. OP here. Hey... Y'all are good people for even commenting.

Listen. I knew this post was gonna get flamed. No worries. BPD is a helluva drug. One day you might know... But I sincerely hope not.

Thanks to this site I'm not as vested emotionally as I once was. Did come as a shock I won't deny it.

But you left her for a reason. Probably MANY reasons.

All is well. Hard to let go of your stupid imagination.

Thanks again...