"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jeaolusy...doesn't make sense

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There was a girl who was interested in me. We hung out a lot in a larger group, and went out a few times over the last four months. I wouldn't say I was playing games with her, but just testing the waters to see if I even wanted to get involved with her. She was attractive, but just didn't do enough for me to take it anywhere physically. She'd follow me around like a puppy...when we went out with a group, we'd be the last ones there after everyone left. The last couple times she wanted to do something with me I sort of blew her off. I just didn't feel like hanging out with her.

I'm amazed I held her interest for four months. But, now she's clinging to another guy in the same way as she did with me before. I was expecting that to happen, and though l shouldn't care since I basically nexted her, deep inside it pisses me off...almost like I feel I own her attention. Stupid I know, but amazing how when a woman you reject moves on to some other guy it really gets to you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by insomniac
There was a girl who was interested in me. We hung out a lot in a larger group, and went out a few times over the last four months. I wouldn't say I was playing games with her, but just testing the waters to see if I even wanted to get involved with her. She was attractive, but just didn't do enough for me to take it anywhere physically. She'd follow me around like a puppy...when we went out with a group, we'd be the last ones there after everyone left.
You didn't rejected her _fully_ if you hang out with her that much of course you would feel a bit jealous.
That is pretty simple. Why - does it bother you?
 

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Alright, I admit there is something there that is enough to upset me. I just got back from a party where this group hangs out..and they showed up together. Apparantly he's more into her than I ever was as they are now showing up at things as a couple, apparantly. Yeah, that could have been me in his place, but I passed on her. Still, it bothers me. Both of us did a great job tonight pretending the other didn't exist.

This girl is maybe a 6, could be an 8 if she made herself up better and didn't act so weird. That's mainly why I passed on her. But still, when I see her and that other guy, it gets to me. The attention given to me is now directed at someone else. Proof that I need to get more women in my life so that stuff like this wouldn't even bother me.

This is more a lesson to me in how women think...she rejects you, but when she sees you with someone else it can drive her crazy.
 

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Originally posted by insomniac
This is more a lesson to me in how women think...she rejects you, but when she sees you with someone else it can drive her crazy.
I naturally feels this and I never meet with my ex-s.
Dont hang out where she does, pretend she doens't exist for you anymore...it will help.
 
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